Sexual offences: Changing mindset crucial to address the issue


Florine Roche
Daijiworld Media Network

Aug 2: The Karnataka government responded to the public outcry over a spate of recent rape incidents in the state by bringing sexual offences under Goonda act by amending the act. While the government needs to be congratulated for amending the Goonda Act, it must be noted that finding a quick fix solution like amending the act is not the only answer to a problem as complex as sexual abuse that has widespread and much deeper repercussions. 

What we witness today in Karnataka and all over the country is nothing but the rape culture with its tentacles spread far and wide all over the country. While many of us empathize with the victims very often what we see is the tendency to put the onus on the victim, the blame game, insensitive and rather shocking reaction to rape incidents by those at the helm of affairs and a steadied silence from a vast majority. 

The reaction of Chief Minister Siddramaiah with regard to the recent rape of a minor girl in the precincts of the schools is disgusting. Politicians like Mulayam and even Lalu Prasad Yadav have let their tongue loose and Mulayam’s infamous diatribe ‘boys are boys’ only shows how mean and insensitive our leaders can become on an issue as sensitive and brutal as sexual offences. It is a tragedy of this nation that politicians can stoop down to this abysmal low to pander to vote bank politics. It is also a greater disaster that we end up electing such politicians to rule us. 

Since the deadly beast of sexual abuse has taken deep roots in our country what we need is an inclusive approach and a system that can methodically dismantle this culture. That is why in the place of three wise monkeys who professed “See no evil, hear no evil, and speak no evil” we need a fourth one that says “we will not rape”. This is the need of the hour because unless we change our attitude towards a crime as horrid and cowardly as sexual abuse, gang rape, rape of minors, toddlers and other forms of sexual offence we cannot call ourselves civilized people. 

Rape being one of the worst crimes, the callousness with which we treat rape and rape victims has to be changed and for that our mindset has to be changed. But in reality in most cases the victim and her family will be burdened by the social stigma with which they have to live with till the end of their lives. The society does not allow her to lead a normal life which in other words means the life virtually comes to an end to the rape victim. This kind of treatment is like rubbing salt over the wound as the victim has to deal with the trauma arising out of the sexual abuse she is subjected to. The insensitivity with which the police and also an overactive media leaked the details of victim in the rape case of a 22 year old medical student in Frazer Town in Bangalore is a faux pas from which the both of them cannot be absolved. This victim took the courage to file a case against the television channels and also against the police, directly accusing them of revealing her identity. 

The society has always been biased towards women and when it comes to rapes very often we hear people putting the onus on women saying the way they dress is like ‘asking for it’. This is the most bizarre and ludicrous defense of the defenseless. From time immemorial men have found women to be provocateurs seducing men to immorality and found it convenient to impose the purdah system on them. It is like you have a problem but you do not want to solve it. Keeping this argument aside how can our country explain the number of rape incidents of minor girls ? How can a baby girl of six months or less than that or a girl who is yet to puberty can provoke men to become beasts? It is only perverted minds that can think and act in such circumstances and in a manner that we have been witnessing. I think we need to address this issue more than anything by addressing the root causes like lack of sex education, disrespect for women, suppressed needs and the widening gap between the haves and the have nots. Change the mindset and the battle is half won and I think we need to work in unison. 
  

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  • florine roche, Mangalore

    Mon, Aug 04 2014

    Dear Ash, I dont know whether you are a male or a female. But that does not matter here when I want to respond to your comment. Your comment is sickening and mean to say the least because it reveals your mindset which is duplicitous. The subject discussed in the article is about rape and you are just deviating the subject by talking about how girls behave and talk. I really dont understand what you are trying to convey here. Are defending rape saying girls talk and behave in a particular way and that is why their body language invites rape? How disgusting your thinking can be. First learn to respect human beings whether they are boys and girls and dont compare how girls in other countries behave. That is immaterial to the subject discussed here. If you have a problem when you talk to girls it is your problem. Don’t shift the blame on the girls. Disgusting!

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  • Ash, Mangalore

    Tue, Aug 05 2014

    Hey Florine,

    I had mentioned to look from another angle. I know rape is a crime and my comment is just not about rape nor supported rapist. Don't be so upset as if I have committed crime by giving option, correct your mindset first as u are not able understand or except others views. Your experience with the people around u may be different from others. You are disgusting by not willing to view others option and this is how most women react and behave when it’s not favourable. You check no of false charges by women too.

    I never mentioned “body language invites rape”, just consider you approach a girl (known or unknown) for some information or just for a talk and she turns her face or make odd faces. This may anger other person and if it’s at workplace or in the neighbourhood it may turn into unpleasant atmosphere and u call it sexual assault, harassments and what not. Even boys face harassment, bullying, fights etc. and not reported.

    Yes what I am trying to say is “First learn to respect human beings whether they are boys and girls” ..from any community . ..so I had to compare Indian with others when it comes to building up safe community with respect to all. Yes we have to follow culture and traditions but not at the cost of avoiding, bullying or misguiding others. I have no problem talking to girls nor I give a $#!t. I keep it brief with those who try to be over smart, but yes it will have a reciprocal on community as a whole.

    Now don't get into rapes which are committed on infants or under aged girls like the one in Bangalore which is hard to believe. I have just brought up what I had seen at public places and at social gathering how some girls behave with others especially to a stranger. You might have read or heard that a person who committed these crimes in most cases was well known to the victim. First think of building safe community which follows law, then point mistakes.

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  • Ash, Mangalore

    Mon, Aug 04 2014

    Hi Florine,
    You have mentioned …
    disrespect for women, suppressed needs and the widening gap between the haves and the have nots. Change the mindset and the battle is half won and I think we need to work in unison.

    Have you seen from another angle how girls act (particularly Indian girls) towards other sex… way they talk, react or reach out to someone in need. I have travelled to few countries all alone and the help, response and way the girls talk is different from that of a girl from India and that to from our own Mangalorean community. Here most of the girls don’t know how to talk to a boy… either they turn their face or cover if a stranger comes and asks basic information if he is not able to find or act as if they are superior and other person is untouchable.
    Their way of talk changes if the person is handsome and dressed well. Most of time they reply in ENGlish when other person tries to talk in local language even if she knows both languages well. These are few, but there are many issues to be addressed when it comes to boys and girls living in a community. Girls are the once who form groups and single out others based on education, language, living standards, etc which is like being racist which should not happen. ….when you are in public places avoid this, try to get everyone involved

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  • C D Souza , Mangalore

    Sun, Aug 03 2014

    Khan are you serious about what you are doing. In fact i dont want to bring religion here. But since you raised the point i just want to rebutt you. I am rather flabbergasted to read your comment becoz u seem to be ignorant. R you saying rapists are found only in other religions. What about incest widely prevalent among Muslims. But u dont consider it as rape ha! So dont try to defend saying alcohol is responsible for everything. Dont c issue in the prism of your narrow vision. Grow up bro!

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  • Khan, Chennai

    Sun, Aug 03 2014

    If you want to stop 'Rape', just follow the Islamic instruction of forbidding and banning of Alcohol and Pornography in Media and Internet. Period.

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  • Greg D'Cunha, Doha Qatar/Bejai

    Sun, Aug 03 2014

    As mentioned in the article "It is only perverted minds that can think and act in such circumstances", I absolutely agree with this. One has to be trained to Think Good, Listen Good, See Good and fortunately the outcome will be Good deed. The good you intake, the Good will come out from you. If you intake bad, the bad will result. It depends on how you take a subject or matter(Perceive,control & evaluate emotions).
    SO ADOPT GOOD.

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  • Pamela.Pinto, Wellington, NZ, Kuwait

    Sat, Aug 02 2014

    Florine!
    Kudos lady. My article is adjacent to yours on the HOME page here (Special section) and i voiced something in tandem with the issue here at hand. Bizarre comments from some some of my readers with exactly what you have mentioned here too. Loved the write up.
    :)

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  • Joe Britto, Nakre/Bangalore

    Sat, Aug 02 2014

    Apt article by Florine on the sad happenings in our country and State The insensitive opinions expressed by our politicians shows their true =background and we are the culprits for voting such leaders . The fault lines are also due to poor quality of movies and violence we see on the TV serials and the way in which gadgets are being misused to propagate porn especially amongst teens & pre teens.Values have gone for big toss and only recognition is for money power and position and greed to achieve instant fame . The entire system needs a through cleansing starting from kindergarten to post graduation and beyond as well.

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  • PEDDU, MANGALURU

    Sat, Aug 02 2014

    IN DEMOCRACY NO ONE IS GET A PROPER ANSWER FOR THE QUESTIONS !! SERIOUS ISSUES ARE IGNORED OR SIDELINED DUE TO THERE ARE 1000 LAWMAKERS INVOLVED TO TAKE A DECISION.

    THERE ARE NO SERIOUSNESS IN THE POLITICAL ARENA THEY JUST INTERESTED IN FOREIGN TOURS - PRESS CONFERENCE - CELEBRATIONS - OPENING CEREMONIES ETC ETC !!

    OPPOSITIONS PARTY ALWAYS OPPOSING THE DECISIONS OF RULING PARTY WHETHER ITS GOOD OR BAD FOR THE NATION OR ITS PEOPLE !!

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  • Rohan, Mangalore

    Sat, Aug 02 2014

    Very apt article on the current situation.People in India should have either the fear of law as it is in Gulf or individual respect as it is in Europe and elsewhere.India society has lost both. We often accuse women for expressing them selves may be by way of cloths, feelings and actions but this does not mean this is a freedom for men to rape.There seems to be no commitment from the part of law makers to bring in stringent laws and the larger Indian society mindset seems to be not willing to change, until then the Indian women will be subjected to such cruelty.

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  • Alwyn, mlore

    Sat, Aug 02 2014

    Nice and motivating article..
    India is very diverse but divided society in economic prosperity and culturally. i do believe people should think rationally about their dressing.

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  • PEDDU, MANGALURU

    Sat, Aug 02 2014

    THE CRIMINAL ACTIVITIES ARE BACKED BY THE POLITICAL INFLUENCE INDIRECTLY OR DIRECTLY !!

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  • Jacintha, middle east

    Sat, Aug 02 2014

    Parle G Son kills wife - because HE wants a different woman.
    UP women are raped - to punish the minority community.
    Girl child raped in Bangalore - she was alone and the GYM/SPORTS TRAINER had too much hormone.
    Young lady in A'bad was under surveillance because HER FATHER requested.
    Young brides ACCIDENTALLY die (it has come down now) because the dowry settlement between the men in the house has gone SOUR.
    Women in Iraq are facing a new diktat, because men think so.

    Sex determination test to identify the girl child at the embryo stage - to destroy.

    Many offices - WOMEN are not promoted as they do not see POTENTIAL (but they have enough potential to run household, raise children, manage umpteen things).

    Our whole thinking is giving the GIRL a second class status. We gave it a religious, cultural tone always. But of late the culture/religious knowledge is declining, but oppression on women has passed on.

    'maadiddunno maharaya'. We need a long time to outgrow this.

    Let us first accept 'yes we have sinned',then find ways to rectify. If we keep pointing the finger elsewhere, it won't work.

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  • MANU, Udupi

    Sat, Aug 02 2014

    Nice article.
    Nothing is going to help unless these articles, awareness about the laws and punishments reach the person who is going to commit the crime at that moment
    Identifying these elements in the society and protecting ourselves is equally important.

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  • Tony, Dubai/Udupi

    Sat, Aug 02 2014

    Rapes are on the rise & if prompt action is not taken against the culprits, the other like minded would get the courage. Govt should be serious on such issues.

    The increase in this rape trend only shows that the devil rules the world & has succeeded in corrupting the minds of people that includes both the offenders and their defenders alike.

    These dark forces of evil can only be countered with prayer & fasting. Lack of prayer life leads to loss of sense of good & evil. Most of the modern Movies, TV serials & even Cartoons depict immorality now-a-days.

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Sat, Aug 02 2014

    Florine, a very timely article.

    As soon as a 'rape' related incident comes up, it baffles whether such incidents have increased now, were they always there but never reported earlier or are coming in the open fearlessly now more than before.

    However, your point that 'what a kind can do to arouse the culprits' did haunt me always.

    I feel that the speed at which such cases are handled isn't sufficient and especially the leniency towards juvenile offenders is not forgivable. A rapist must be dealt with a similar law, whether he is above 60 or below 18.

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