Beauty Lies Within…

Mangalore, March 28, 2010

One of the frequently discussed topics among humans is that of looks or appearance. Majority of people give prime importance to beauty. It is considered as an asset. The innumerable number of beauty products in the market are true indicators of how much the people are obsessed with beauty. 

Recently I came across a totally shocking news of a British school girl who committed suicide after being called ‘Ugly’ by her classmates. They had suggested her to take part in the Word’s Ugliest People’s Contest. Unable to bear the insult the girl hanged herself. The emotionally shattered mother of the girl said, “My daughter was not at all ugly. For me she is the most beautiful girl on earth”.

I initially felt how the girl could take such an extreme step for such a trivial reason, according to me. But after some deep thought I realized it must have been too hard for her to accept such harsh comments from her own classmates. 

It is certainly true that negative comments on looks or appearance lowers the self-esteem of people. They tend to develop an inferiority complex and gradually lose their sense of self-identity, excluding some lighthearted people who may not get too affected by such remarks. Lot of people do feel a sense of low though they may not express it openly.

People have a very unrealistic idea about beauty. So much has been talked about it that it has almost become universal. The concept of beauty portrayed in media is largely responsible fore people’s notion about beauty. 

People associate particular physical characteristics with beauty, glamour, style and sex appeal. Having a certain type of body affects how people interact with you. Various studies indicate that people associate body type with everything from personality traits to occupation. These perceptions are common in both genders and they tend to develop early in childhood much like racial and gender stereotypes. 

With the view to look like someone and develop certain body types many people resort to different types of methods. Extreme body image concerns often lead to eating disorders like Bulimia, Anorexia Nervosa and the like which can prove fatal.

Then there is a tendency of equating beauty with complexion. Fair complexion is generally considered as a boon. If so what about the concept of black beauty..? There are large number of black or dark complexioned people who are much more attractive than their fairer counterparts. Actually Indians are much more colour-conscious than Europeans. They usually have the habit of rebuking someone by pointing to his/her colour.  Even when it comes to choice of girls during marriage most Indian men prefer fair girls. If you go through the matrimonial ads in newspapers you can see how much prominence is given to beauty and fair complexion.

Even the western outlook towards beauty has undergone change. The girls of African origin are emerging as winners of beauty contests. But sadly, colour discrimination still prevails in India to a large extent. People need to realize that blood that runs through our veins is of the same colour irrespective of religion, caste, sex and outer complexion. Even black hens lay white eggs. 

I strongly feel that the word ‘Ugly’ should never be used in the context of describing someone’s looks or appearance. No person on earth is ugly. Each one has their own sense of beauty. It certainly lies in the eyes of the beholder. If one person does not find you good looking, someone else will surely do. 

From my own experience I have learnt the fact that people’s behaviour also has an influence on our perception about their beauty. Most of the times we tend to find someone beautiful if we like them as a person. Similarly if we have an adverse feeling towards someone we may not find them good looking even if they actually are. Isn’t this true.? 

So my point here is beauty lies within us. It is important to be self-contented about the way we look. “A mud pot having milk will be ranked higher than a golden pot having poison. It’s not our outer glamour but our inner virtues that make us valuable”. 

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Comment on this article

  • suhyla tonse, santhekatte,udupi

    Sat, Apr 24 2010

    good article!!!!

  • Anoop Rai, New Delhi

    Fri, Apr 23 2010

    Good Article ... It is very shameful about we indians we still practice aparthied

  • Shiva Prakash, Puttur

    Thu, Apr 01 2010

    Good Article, Wish everyone develops this sense towards beauty!

  • anand adkonkar, kuwait

    Tue, Mar 30 2010

    this my message to all humans being. please donot look beauty on your face. beauty come from inner hart thats the god beauty. except your self as god made you .look human has three stages in his life 1st child ,2nd young age,3rd old age ,look this three stages of your life . then think your self where is your beauty when god gave you this life there is reason behind it, donot lose your life if same one say ugle.(life is precieous)please my brother&sister if you cannot say good think to other donot say bed think to other.your one ward can distory other life.thank you.

  • A.S.Mathew, U.S.A.

    Tue, Mar 30 2010

    Naturally we are attracted to those people who are physically attractive. God, the creator has
    created everybody with distinct physical features, and anybody having a perfectly cordinated
    features will be ahead of others in drawing attention. On the other hand, there is a thing called
    "inner beauty". If a physically beautiful person is of arrogant and hateful nature, that beautiful
    person can be the most disgusting person to be around.

    Personally speaking, while I was growing up, I enjoyed visiting some of my cousins who who were not
    physically attractive but they were very loving and affectionate. On the other hand, I had some cousins who were physically attrative but with a lot of foolish pride and selfishness, and I was not greatly excited to visit them. Our physical beauty and looks can fade away very fast in life, but the
    inner beauty will be getting  better every day until we die.

    God has created some great people with inner beauty, and they were used to change the world, but those people with great physical beauty might have entertained the world for a short span of time.

    Physical beauty is a vanity but inner beauty is divine and lasting long and with greater influencing
    power over those people who will come across us in our liftime.
    Mahatma Gandhi, Mother Theresa, and such rare people were extremely blessed with inner beauty.

    It is an irony that majority of those people with inner beauty had less physical beauty.

  • Rohan Almeida, chickmagalur

    Mon, Mar 29 2010

    well done veeks...first of al i feel proud that u r my i went on reading your views i felt the way u expressed it is indeed a well matured one..i appreciate ur courage n support u on this perticular is nothing but what v see, wat v feel, wat v do...if everything v do is right, there comes no question of fear... beauty lies in the eyes of a be frank, yo article has just took place in my favorites..!!
    keep going d very best...:)

  • AArasa, manglore

    Mon, Mar 29 2010

    Great..Really a nice one.Infact its very good

  • Jess, Kuwait

    Mon, Mar 29 2010

    "Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder" some say... and "Beauty is just skin deep" others say. Truely a nice article, and the true beauty lies within a person. Its sad that someone going to the extreme of committing suicide... only if they had to understand.. anyway, nice article.. God bless you.

  • Anees, Mangalore/Saudi Arabia

    Mon, Mar 29 2010

    Beautiful Article, true fact, clearly explained in simple words. Thank You. Keep it up.

  • patrick d'souza, mangalore neermarga

    Sun, Mar 28 2010

    Each one has their own sense of beauty. It certainly lies in the eyes of the beholder. If one person does not find you good looking, someone else will surely do.

  • Santa Lopes, Kasarkod

    Sun, Mar 28 2010

    Good article but one sided. Beauty is both subjective and objective. What lies inside has an effect outside. Your inner beauty should radiate outside. The real beauty is when your inner beauty blends with outside expression.

  • adshenoy, mangloor

    Sun, Mar 28 2010

    The phrases go like these-"beauty is just skin deep" and " the beauty lies in the eye of the beholder"
    So what is beauty? For me beauty is meaningless as it is described today. All the beauty shows and glamour are just hogwash.

    Inner beauty outweighs outer glamour.

  • Rakesh Dsouza, Mangalore, DUbai

    Sun, Mar 28 2010

    A good article and its true. keep it up.

  • Ronald, Mangalore

    Sun, Mar 28 2010

    I liked the phrase. “A mud pot having milk will be ranked higher than a golden pot having poison". keep it up. Now a days the goldon pots are more likely to have poison in them. so one should try to see the inner beauty.

  • Shiva Shetty, Kateel / AUH

    Sun, Mar 28 2010

    Very nice article n true too, all the best.

  • Agnello, Mangalore

    Sun, Mar 28 2010

    The author says 'Similarly if we have an adverse feeling towards someone we may not find them good looking even if they actually are' I'd like to know how has she defined 'actually good looking' in this statement?

  • Sohan Pinto, Mangalore

    Sun, Mar 28 2010

    Beautiful Article!

  • mohan h naik, Mangaluru

    Sun, Mar 28 2010

    Remember a recent read."Consider beauty and look for it both in yourself and in others. Even though beauty is simply an ornament, its contemplation can bring joy, albeit ephemeral. Highlight your own beauty and admire that of others".

  • Rj Avinash, 92.7bigfm, Udupi/mangalore/Kundapur

    Sun, Mar 28 2010

    Every person is different in his/her own means. Nicely written...and all i can say is that "HANDSOME IS NOT HANDSOME BY HIS HANDSOME LOOKS BUT BY HIS HANDSOME DEEDS"...

  • Bulsam, Mangalore

    Sun, Mar 28 2010

    The beauty of a human starts from the face and ends in their character. The face gives the immediate good impression but that don't last longer. The real beauty lies in their good character, hard working nature and humble behaviour. In any human to human relationship the ultimate result is reflected by judging by one person whether he/she is an asset or a liability to the other person. Hence it is told that beauty is only skin deep.

  • Antony D'Cunha, Permude/Muscat

    Sun, Mar 28 2010

    Each person is unique by design. Colour of hair, colour of skin and its glow, is not going to be permanent. Only good qualities of a person are going to be recognised by the society in the long run. Beautiful faces with ugly minds will not in any way contribute to the society and its growth. So life is not only about beauty but much beyond that.

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