Expectations Hurt

November 4, 2020

We all expect most of our life events to happen as per we expect. We dream, we plan and expect it to be successful after every effort has been made to make it successful. However life is not meant to be that way though it seems harder to accept it. Life has its own bends and curves and we have to drive along those . When you offer help to someone it is quite obvious to expect help in return at the time of distress. But, when u do not get help from that person as per your expectations you feel hopeless and tend to develop hatred towards him or her.

It is better not to expect anything at all. It is okay to seek help but not okay to be confident that you will receive what you asked for. Also do not expect the person whom you helped to remember you and to be grateful till the end of the life.

Life takes twist in unknown ways, the person whom you helped may not even talk properly to you later in life, it should not shatter you though. Remain strong and continue to progress, negativity and negative people should not occupy the important space in your life, no matter what.

Expectations hurt. Do not expect anything from anyone. You work hard and do good deeds; this should be your life’s satisfaction motto. For example: everyone has a mobile today, you message and call your loved ones or friends, but if you expect them to do the same there is no affection in relation or friendship. Live your life as you want embracing positivity and goodness. Do not live as per other expectations, you will end up living others life not your own.

We are not born to please others; we must live our life with what keeps us happy. Live your life’s every moment positively and take it day by day, do not think about the future too deeply. Build up the positive environment around you and do not look back into your past.

Remember that when you have everything, everyone stays with you but when you have nothing, you are rotten, and this is how the cruel world sees. Not everyone carries that attitude, goodness and good people still exist and persist in this world. We cannot change other’s thought and behaviour, we can change ours, and through this we may be able to see only the positive vibes of life.

Swim through the hardships of life with all the positivity and kindness you possess. Do not remain grudged and angry on those who have tried to destroy your image, just try to forgive and forget and keep moving in life.





By Jyothsna D'Souza
Jyothsna D’Souza currently resides in Sydney, Australia. Professionally she is a registered nurse working in Sydney’s Public Hospital. She has lived with her family in Sydney since 2012. Jyothsna is from Mangaluru.
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Comment on this article

  • Alwyn Johnson Quadros, Shirva Pilar/Dubai

    Tue, Nov 17 2020

    Thank you for another well written article. Life becomes miserable by thinking about expectations
    from others. We should learn to see positive side and enjoy our life. Thank you.

  • Raymond, Mangalore

    Mon, Nov 16 2020

    Though you may help people without any expectations, it is enough if they remember the help received from you. We may get back many more times through the almighty's blessings.

  • Richard Rich, Canada

    Sat, Nov 07 2020

    Jyothsna D'Souza you have written well. But here I am quoting "Expectations and desires are such a beautiful and yet dangerous part of life. To have a dream, let alone seeing it fulfilled, creates a feeling in your heart that is essential for a meaningful life. To have desires is to have a heart that is alive. If you feel nothing, hope for nothing, never have a dream, it probably means you have lost your heart and passion for life. But how do we maintain joy when we have unmet expectations, for as the Bible says in Proverbs 13:12, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.”
    The Bible Says We Must Keep Our Hearts Alive, Even With Unmet Expectations.
    We expect so many things in life, Some we achieve some we don't. If you don't expect there is nothing to look forward to.
    If Pleasing God Is Our Ultimate Hope, We Don’t Have to Be Crushed by Lesser Unmet Expectations

  • Ronald, Mangalore

    Thu, Nov 05 2020

    Well, its all easier said than done! The future that we look forward is an expectation. All our efforts to meet our goals/Aims are based on expectations.

  • Joan Mascarenhas, Mangaluru

    Thu, Nov 05 2020

    Well written Jyothsna and very true...... one has to be Selfless in their work and the reward will follow.

  • Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai

    Thu, Nov 05 2020

    Without expectations you are not going anywhere ...

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