Suicide is Not Liberation

August 18, 2015

Having a rough day? Place your hand over your heart. Can u feel it? That is called purpose; you are here for a reason. Never give up. There comes a time when you look into the mirror and you realize what you see is all that you will ever be. And then you accept it. Or you kill yourself. Or you stop looking into the mirror. Where you end up in life is not determined by where you start. All of us are human beings and it is total human mentality to give up on a particular task where there seems to be no way.

You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed because you feel suicidal. It only means that you have more pain than you can cope up with right now. An example here would explain it better, if one starts piling weight on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if the weight exceeds your capacity, no matter how much you want to remain standing. Many people every day around the world give up their life for reasons they know best. But what saddens us is that these people take this harsh decision, without contemplating the consequences that follow this painful decision.

Always remember, suicide is never the answer, it never is, and will never be. Suicide may be a permanent solution to a temporary problem, but it is one that beckons with burgeoning seductiveness. Heard it dozens of times right? After every soul is lost at the hands of a rope or of a knife, we weep and eventually forget. Know this, no matter what problem you are going through, it will be tough. There will be nights when you will doubt the reason for your existence. But these feelings are temporary, may be a month, a year. But DEATH?!!! Death is permanent. Your solution could be around the corner and you just threw yourself mid-road. Being a four year old you thought growing up meant staying till 4 am and partying, but you are now up till 4 am thinking about the weapon that will wreak your blood.

Picture this: Your body is lying in your room, motionless. The sister you fought with last night and countless other nights sees you like that. She will never be the same little kid again. She will have nightmares for the rest of her life. The mother who scolded you yesterday is numb. Motionless, a little different from you, she will blame herself for the rest of her incomplete life. Your father who took you to the garden on his piggy back after work, no matter how tired he was, now has to carry your lifeless body, praying with all his might that he could save you. You never saw him cry? Well, you should see him now. Your best friend will hold on to the last few memories in which you smiled. She will cry into her pillow every night. She will sniff your shirt she had borrowed just to feel the little essence of the living you. She will forever think about everything she could have, should have and would have said only if you were alive. You don't only kill yourself; you kill every person close to you. Aren't you a bloody murderer then?!Did your family deserve this? Alas! They had a dream that their children would make them proud, they had no clue whatsoever that you end your life.

Suicide doesn’t take away the pain; it just gives it to someone else.The only time you must use the word kill and yourself is when you have a don't in front of them. There may be days when you get up in the morning and things aren't the way you had hoped they would be, times when you try so hard to smile from the outside while you are dying deep inside. "DON'T GIVE UP". That's when you have to tell yourself that things will get better. Every problem has a solution, every question an answer. Just because you don’t have solutions today does not mean that you will never get one. This is not the end; today's test will bring tomorrow's promotion. Remember to trust God, stay on track, be focused, be positive, be determined and keep smiling because it is the only curve that sets everything straight. If God can turn night into day, He can turn a burden into a blessing.

"God will make a way,where there seems to be no way.
He works in ways we cannot see,
He will make a way for me"--Donald Moen

I really hope you see this because I just wanted to let you know that there's someone who cares about you. You may not know them, but I promise you there's someone out there. I care, I really do, and would hate to find out that you harmed or ended your life. I promise people will notice if you were gone, and they would be sad, very sad. Please don't hurt yourself, I'm thinking of you, praying for you and hoping that things will get better for you. There are people out there who care for you - SMILE...I'm not telling you that its going to be easy, I'm telling you that it's going to be worth it .YOU CANNOT BE REPLACED.

This is just a voice going out to all of you reading this, to help anyone who is going through even a millimeter of a rough phase. Suicide is cowardliness and living is courage.




By Rahul D'Souza
Rahul D'Souza is a 3rd year student of E&C Engineering in Mangaluru.
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Comment on this article

  • Dr Mohan Prabhu, mangalore/ottawa

    Mon, Aug 31 2015

    This is an additional comment to that I made in this column several days ago. While appreciating the article and views of the author, I have just read the Supreme Court's decision that the ancient practice of mokhsa (liberation) is fully legitimate and constitutionally safe the Court seems to have agreed with the argument that the constitutional right to live implies a right not to live. Moksha has been practiced both by Jains and Brahmins for ages.


    Tue, Aug 25 2015

    Dear Rahul...very good article...keep writing like this..

  • joseph vijay madtha, koppa,chikmaglur

    Tue, Aug 25 2015

    congratulations rahul.

    thought provoking,inspirational.many more come.god bless.

  • G. D'Souza, mangalore/Australia

    Tue, Aug 25 2015

    In our present world with a culture of death ( abortion, euthanasia, suicide, assisted suicide) this article is a breath of fresh air. Every life has value. And suffering has its importance too.

  • Rohan Lobo, Dubai

    Mon, Aug 24 2015

    Dear Rahul,

    Very Good article. best wishes to you and write more inspiring articles in future which can be helpful to many.

    Good Luck .


    Mon, Aug 24 2015

    This article is like asking a starving child to have table manners.
    I would say, If you were to know a person who has so much mental agony that he wants to kill himself attend to his pain do not just give him a lecture on his parent's sacrifice and his siblings feelings..

  • anita britto, Mangalore/Auckland

    Sun, Aug 23 2015

    Wow , Rahul ! Beautiful article about a permanent solution to a temporary problem ! I hope and pray that your article is widely distributed and that anyone who is feeling low/ depressed sees the wisdom in your words. Wish you all the best and May you continue to motivate people to face challenges in life with courage and hope.

  • Dr Mohan Prabhu, mangalore/ottawa

    Fri, Aug 21 2015

    Good and sensible article well expressed and sound advice As a few have pointed out in this commentary (with which I expressed agreement), life is often complicated especially with aged people who long for the day of release from this world so that they do not become an emotional, physical or financial burden on anyone when they are wholly dependent. A different approach is needed in such cases with a different mindset. Even the caregivers in their own mind and hearts pray that God will end the permanently sufferings of the person they love and care, and their own. May be in such cases the extreme step will bring closure to all.

  • Annie, Moodbidri

    Fri, Aug 21 2015

    Wow ! Very sensible article from a student !! This article will benefit any age- group. Esp the author's photo. So cheery and cherry !!

  • Francis Mathias, Udupi

    Thu, Aug 20 2015

    Well written article.I pray that this write-up may be eye opener for depressed people in society.

  • George Theophil, Mangalore

    Thu, Aug 20 2015

    Hey Rahul, You look Handsome and Cute... :) this explains that you enjoying your life... Nice to see that...

  • Vanitha Martis, Pangala

    Thu, Aug 20 2015

    Good one Rahul..

  • vincent dsa, Dubai,Shankerpura.

    Wed, Aug 19 2015

    Good article.Most of the suicides are influenced by the environment we live and fueled by lack of knowledge and the support system to deal with the problem.There are many helplines available .

    Dear depressed person,if you feel free you may contact me at with your problem.

  • Vinod, Mangalore

    Wed, Aug 19 2015

    This article from a 3rd year engineering student is unbelievable... Too good.. . Rahul seems to have seen a lot in life and has a nerve for others pain.
    Appreciate it.
    I guess if we can circulate this article and if we are able to save at least one life its just worth it.
    Good work Rahul. God bless you

  • oliver, udupi

    Tue, Aug 18 2015

    @geoffree. I think the target audience to this writeup are different. people like college going students who perform poorly in exams and decide to take the extreme step to overcome a temporary problem. or maybe people who commit suicide due to financial problems. you are right that there are different cases here like terminal illness and depression. but maybe that topic needs a different article.

  • geoffrey, hat hill

    Tue, Aug 18 2015

    The writer has evaded one main cause of suicides : Suffering from terminal illness. One can’t apply any of those adages like : Suicide is never the answer, Suicide may be a permanent solution to a temporary problem, Suicide doesn’t take away the pain, Suicide is cowardliness and living is courage etc…to someone who is suffering from some incurable ailment such as cancer at final stage . Or someone who’s become totally immobile due to some accident with no hope of recovery. Agreed, survival is the most basic instinct of all living beings. But for humans, the rational living beings when the certain factors including the one that I have mentioned here outweighs this basic instinct, suicide becomes inevitable.

  • appu, Bangalore

    Tue, Aug 18 2015

    Very impressive article. If one can understand these there would be no such incidents occurring. But the truth is that the person committing suicide will not be in the state to understand all these. The first thing for them will be to overcome from the pain, frustration, depression and they find it easy to take the extreme step forgetting the next sequence which their family will undergo. very very painful moments will the family faces.

    Yes Suicide is not liberation. Hope the youngster will understand it.

  • Jaya Ds, Kuwait

    Tue, Aug 18 2015

    Well written. Negative thoughts bother us only when we think of ourselves which many of our younger generation feel now a days. Along with thinking about our own future, if we practice to be selfless, find more happiness in giving rather than receiving, we will never get this feeling of attempting suicide because we will always think that 'we should live for others' not just for ourselves.

  • Marita, Bantwal

    Tue, Aug 18 2015


  • Anita DSouza, Mangalore/Kuwait

    Tue, Aug 18 2015

    Must be read by all young fellows out there who think easy finding solace in suicide at the time of frustrations & failures. Explained very well John in simple terms. Well done.

  • Mohammed Ilyas Byndoor/Dubai.U.A.E, Byndoor/Dubai.U.A.E

    Tue, Aug 18 2015

    Nice gesture.,

  • Depressed, Mangalore

    Tue, Aug 18 2015

    Nice one Rahul..I really needed something like this because of the phase I'm going through..thanks..

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