The Less Among Equals

December 28, 2014

“We've begun to raise daughters more like sons... but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters.” ― Gloria Steinem

A few days back I happened to read a small article on the webpage of 'The Logical Indian', about a man who offered a seat to a woman in the bus and in return got slapped at, with resenting looks from the other passengers. In his defense all he wanted to do, was offer a tired lady his seat, but she misunderstood it to be some kind of lewd behaviour. The poor man didn't say a word but humbly accepted the humiliation and alighted at the next stop.

I have a read a lot of articles revolving around the atrocities that women had to face at the hands of a man, articles about fighting and standing up to your rights against men. Being a strong, independent women, I am in all support to this fight, but who exactly am I fighting against? Is it against a man offering me to carry my heavy bag, or a is it against a man offering to drop me back home late at night, or is it against the same man who tried to offer the lady that seat in the bus?

In a country where nearly half its population is trying to fight for women's rights, we also have a few iniquitous people, running rackets to trap young and educated men and blackmail them into paying money. If this money isn't paid, the innocent man is charged with molestation and of course who would listen to his plea. At one hand, where majority of rape victim are females, we also have a handful of male rape victims, but how many cases of male rape victims do we hear of? For how many of these cases do we raise our voice? Moreover how many of these cases even come to the forefront? Not many do, and the reason behind this is, there is no one to support a cry of a man, simply because the society never allows a man to cry. A man is suppose to be strong, courageous, muscular and never a victim of a crime. Men are supposed to respect women, love them, protect them from every danger, take charge of all the work, but are never allowed to break down. Isn't this a lot of responsibility on one shoulder? But take a look at your father, your brother or your husband, who work tirelessly everyday to make our life comfortable. I don't deny the effort that a mother, a sister or a wife puts in, but at least we women are allowed to cry, complain or 'nag'; but men are not allowed to do even that much. For every woman out there, try to imagine a moment of happiness and not being able to express that in the form of a tear, or a moment of pain and not being able to cry over that, or not being able to talk to your family or friends about the problems in life... Isn't that too much to ask?

When we teach a brother to protect his sister, we aren't empowering the girl, rather weakening her and letting her know that she is incapable of protecting herself. At the same time, we inculcate the values of manhood in a boy and let him know that he can never cry or get hurt. This expectation that we have from a boy, to become a so called 'Macho-Man' is the biggest problem of our society today. When you can't live up to the expectation you either try to enforce it or hide it, neither of which benefits anyone. Again I come back to my question, who is it that I am fighting against or who is it that I am fighting for? Most of the times we are so carried away in our uprising that we forget our cause. But one must know that yelling in a crowd without knowing the reason is not just ignorance but foolishness too.

As we step into 2015, let's all fight for a good cause. Appreciate all the good men in your life, say a thank you, appreciate every brave woman you come across. In a small way almost all of us can make a difference. All we have to do is teach our future generations, help your daughters to be strong, teach your sons to be a gentlemen not protectors. Help them to stand against injustice and you never know, 10 years from now our next generation would be living in society known simply for - Equality.


Jane Tellis Archives:



By Jane Tellis
To submit your article / poem / short story to Daijiworld, please email it to mentioning 'Article/poem submission for daijiworld' in the subject line. Please note the following:

  • The article / poem / short story should be original and previously unpublished in other websites except in the personal blog of the author. We will cross-check the originality of the article, and if found to be copied from another source in whole or in parts without appropriate acknowledgment, the submission will be rejected.
  • The author of the poem / article / short story should include a brief self-introduction limited to 500 characters and his/her recent picture (optional). Pictures relevant to the article may also be sent (optional), provided they are not bound by copyright. Travelogues should be sent along with relevant pictures not sourced from the Internet. Travelogues without relevant pictures will be rejected.
  • In case of a short story / article, the write-up should be at least one-and-a-half pages in word document in Times New Roman font 12 (or, about 700-800 words). Contributors are requested to keep their write-ups limited to a maximum of four pages. Longer write-ups may be sent in parts to publish in installments. Each installment should be sent within a week of the previous installment. A single poem sent for publication should be at least 3/4th of a page in length. Multiple short poems may be submitted for single publication.
  • All submissions should be in Microsoft Word format or text file. Pictures should not be larger than 1000 pixels in width, and of good resolution. Pictures should be attached separately in the mail and may be numbered if the author wants them to be placed in order.
  • Submission of the article / poem / short story does not automatically entail that it would be published. Daijiworld editors will examine each submission and decide on its acceptance/rejection purely based on merit.
  • Daijiworld reserves the right to edit the submission if necessary for grammar and spelling, without compromising on the author's tone and message.
  • Daijiworld reserves the right to reject submissions without prior notice. Mails/calls on the status of the submission will not be entertained. Contributors are requested to be patient.
  • The article / poem / short story should not be targeted directly or indirectly at any individual/group/community. Daijiworld will not assume responsibility for factual errors in the submission.
  • Once accepted, the article / poem / short story will be published as and when we have space. Publication may take up to four weeks from the date of submission of the write-up, depending on the number of submissions we receive. No author will be published twice in succession or twice within a fortnight.
  • Time-bound articles (example, on Mother's Day) should be sent at least a week in advance. Please specify the occasion as well as the date on which you would like it published while sending the write-up.

Comment on this article

  • Roshan Braganza, Mumbai

    Thu, Jan 01 2015

    I really appreciate efforts of Author in narrating plight of Indian men and their sorry state of affairs , especially Anti men judiciary and misandrist society. Its shocking even respected Judges are propagating men hatred and giving biased judgements . Police , bureaucracy , media glamorize female victims specially sexual assault cases and hijack the government to draft Biased and Sexist policies which often traps innocent men. . Amendment of crpc 2013 is big example , not only they made it Gender Just ( not gender neutral ! ) and evidence act has been codified , so any woman's verbal statement is enough to accuse and arrest a decent man. Besides when men get harassed by woman , there absolute no legal clause to support him. Its strange such a wonderful post garnered only 4 comments , may be people are still not aware of such naked truth .

    Time has come for men to play victim card and get justice. Remember , CRIME HAS NO GENDER , Eg:: Rohtak incident , where innocent boys have been victimized

  • Roshan, Bangalore

    Tue, Dec 30 2014

    The message is driven home in a simple, but effective manner in this article. Well written and wish it is read by many. Congratulations to the author.

  • Don gregory, puttur

    Mon, Dec 29 2014

    A very thoughtful article Jane:)

  • Valerian D'souza, Udupi / Mumbai

    Mon, Dec 29 2014

    Dear Jane,
    Our law makers should have had the ability of clear thinking like you have. For being so, one need to be truthful and bold as you are.
    Why should our fight ever be against males? Are all males bad? And again females expect males to protect them? It should always be between right and wrong.
    Can male and female ever be happy without each other? Both genuinely need each other.
    God created them for each other.
    God never judges on the basis of gender, he judges between righteous and wrong.

  • Salian, Mangalore

    Sun, Dec 28 2014

    Jane, it is a nice article thanks for understanding poor men's problem. Yes, there are several cases women torturing men which is not coming to the limelight and miss using the law. I think men and women should be treated equally. I think you have correctly identified the issue where some women’s are misusing the law to gain their benefit.
    Another point which I want to share here is I am watching several debates in the TV, related to rape, molestation, attack on women etc. I see some of the so called leaders (women protection) or politicians (especially women) talking about the issue. I think these people are taking advantages of the issue rather than helping the victim. I don’t think they will allow their daughters to wear indecent dress. They come for debate wearing decent dress like sari but in the debate they support for indecent dress. They are spoiling the younger girls by giving lecturers. When we talk about dress code they attack on the other side. I am not in favour of dress code but it is a good culture to wear decent dress which will bring down lot of rape or molestation cases. I ask why some girl’s are provoking men by wearing sexy dresses? Because of the provocation rape, molestation cases are increased. I don’t think changing mindset of all men is easy. There should be co-operation from both sides

Leave a Comment

Title: The Less Among Equals

You have 2000 characters left.


Please write your correct name and email address. Kindly do not post any personal, abusive, defamatory, infringing, obscene, indecent, discriminatory or unlawful or similar comments. will not be responsible for any defamatory message posted under this article.

Please note that sending false messages to insult, defame, intimidate, mislead or deceive people or to intentionally cause public disorder is punishable under law. It is obligatory on Daijiworld to provide the IP address and other details of senders of such comments, to the authority concerned upon request.

Hence, sending offensive comments using daijiworld will be purely at your own risk, and in no way will be held responsible.