An Act Called Forgiveness...

  •   Tue, Mar 27 2012
  •   By Dr Pamela Jane Pinto

March 28, 2012

 

An Act Called Forgiveness...


 
To forgive is easier said than done
When the pain borne can be compared to none
And yet we’re often told to forgive
For that apparently means the battle is half won!
 
But let’s ponder for a minute over this act called forgiveness
Wherein we tell ourselves to pardon that person for their mess
A mess caused intentionally or even by mistake
A folly that made us like them a little less.
 
Now say we don’t forgive them for what they really did
And we exhibit spite or just plain animus
Maybe we go a step further than just stay quiet
And make known to all about what they did to us.
 
But somehow still, we find no solace
And we keep thinking about it day and night
Plotting and hatching a moment of confrontation
Or any chance to just get into a fight

No peace, no sleep, but the start of an acute headache
Every time we think of it, it gets us furious
‘’How could they do or say this to me?’’ we wonder
We may partake in spreading rumours that are spurious
 
Yet the mind is not at ease as it should be
Could it be because we didn’t do this thing called ‘Forgive’ ?
How could the lack of a simple act be so powerful?
Is this what it means to happily live?
 
So let’s go out now and test this theory
Let’s forgive the one who hurt us dearly
And surprisingly enough their eyes well up
And they begin to apologise or thank us profusely
 
Now we go back home and lie on our bed
With a smile on our face and no ache in the head
So this is how it actually feels to forgive
Well it’s better than harbouring malice in stead.
 
I guess then from now on we make it a practice
We try and forgive those who do unto us bad
Some day if we were to hurt someone the same way
We’d definitely not want to be the reason they’re sad.

 

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Comment on this article

  • Pamela, New Zealand

    Thu, Apr 26 2012

    I wish to thank each and everyone of you for your wonderful comments and encouragement. its hard for me too to practice what i've preached but i am still tryin my very best to get there and i guess i'd be able to do that soon effortlessly! God bless !!! :)

  • Claudius, Mangaloe/ Canada

    Mon, Apr 02 2012

    Dr.Pamela, your are awesome. It is hard to forgive. But we have God in our midst we can always think of Him and forgive those who hurts us because God loves us and forgives us unconditionally. I remember one Lady came openly in the media and forgave her son's killer even though I could see her crying of her pain. I can add to your poem, " Evil can be conquered by doing good".

  • Anil John Karvallo, Basrur/Abu Dhabi

    Sat, Mar 31 2012

    Very nice.So we can forgive but difficult to forget. But if we forget then great miracle will happen in our life.
    Keep continue like this writings.

  • Lancelot D' Costa, Mangalore / Abu Dhabi

    Sat, Mar 31 2012

    Nice poem Dr. Jane...very well written and published at a time which is most appropriate that's the Holy Week. Keep writing...all the best!!!

  • Melwyn, Udupi, B'lor

    Fri, Mar 30 2012

    My eyes became wet while reading this poem. I had lot of things to say to the person who hurted me. My heart never agree with one point that is FORGIVE THEM. Everytime i say "are they really worth for forgiveness? When they realize their mistakes? Do they know someone is having tough time because of them?" But now, after reading this, i feel a kind of relaxness. Let me forgive them from full of mind. Thank you Pamela for such a good poem.

  • Avi, Mangalore

    Thu, Mar 29 2012

    Awesome !!!!!!!!!!

  • Fr. Melwin Pinto s.j., Mangalore, Rome.

    Thu, Mar 29 2012

    Perhaps someone will say its easier said than done... But honestly, the joy, peace, relief and freedom achieved through forgiveness is unparalleled. Never ever close your heart...and become a prisoner of yourself. Dr. Pamela Jane, you have enriched and inspired us immensely by your poem... God bless you,

  • James Dsouza, Mangalore/Kuwait

    Thu, Mar 29 2012

    Beautiful poem, but difficult to practice. Mangalore has highest number of Divorce cases, that too catholics and for silly reasons, equl no. of property disputs and civil suits in court. reason for all this - Forgiveness- we go for confession, retreat, pray etc, but difficult to practice forgiveness - main reason our EGO and we are Stubborn. We need a change of heart and rethinking our attitude towards others.

  • Rashmi, Mangalore

    Thu, Mar 29 2012

    Very well worded.... Keep it up..

  • A. S. Mathew, U.S.A.

    Wed, Mar 28 2012

    Beautiful poem. Indeed, two of the hardest tests of our spiritual life and maturity are
    forgiving and forgetting that
    person who caused us pains and shame, and the next test is to love other people by overlooking their social status-education-wealth etc. How many will win the test? Please write on such topics
    because we are living in a terribly confused time of history.

  • lima, mangalore

    Wed, Mar 28 2012

    very beautiful poem..

  • Saritha Noronha, Kuwait / Mangalore

    Wed, Mar 28 2012

    Very Nice poem Pamela. Well done. Keep writing more.

  • Dexter Britto, Mangalore/Auckland

    Wed, Mar 28 2012

    Very beautifully written - reminds me of a line from Mother Teresa's "Final Analysis" - “People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway". Forgiveness is a powerful weapon - it gives you peace.

  • Robert George, Mangalore

    Wed, Mar 28 2012

    Forgiveness, as the poem says, is perhaps the most difficult act. Often, even when we believe that we have forgiven someone, we continue to harbour ill-feelings it remains dormant within us and surface if the act is not genuine. Personally, I had a struggle with this lofty virtue. As a Christian the need to forgive was more pressing. Perhaps, a better way to achieve this seemingly difficult task would be to realise why this virtue is given paramount importance. Forgiveness is more important to the person who is offended than to the one who has caused harm, because resentment, bitterness and anger can inflict greater harm. This has been proven scientifically, too. Hence, forgive the person who has hurt you for your own good. I may not agree entirely with the following verses from the poem: “… and surprisingly enough their eyes well up/And they begin to apologise or thank us profusely.” This need not be the case always. But forgive you must, at least for your own sake.

    Indeed, it is a good poem!

  • Vincent Patrao, Pakshikere

    Wed, Mar 28 2012

    Very well written.. reallyheart touching.. plzz do continue the good writing Doctor...

  • william lobo, paldane, mangalore

    Wed, Mar 28 2012

    During lent season we have to do that.we feel difficult to forgive.But Jesus did it from the cross.

  • Dors, Mumbai

    Wed, Mar 28 2012

    Very nice poem, keep writing...


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