Fr Kingsley Adikaram - A Smile Amid Suffering

February 19, 2012
 
It was the month of June 1983. A hot sultry afternoon, at the outskirts of Bangalore, Mount St Joseph, the Jesuit Novitiate. We had assembled outside to bid farewell to our senior Novices, after the completion of their initial two-year Novitiate training. Among them was a dynamic young man, Kingsley Adikaram, a Jesuit Scholastic from Sri Lanka. Thickly bearded and a very friendly person by nature. That was a long 28 years ago.

I was travelling along the beautiful beach road in Colombo, Sri Lanka, heading towards Clifford Place, where the Jesuit House Nirmala was located. My excitement was growing and I felt impatient. I had specifically planned this trip so I could see my Jesuit friend. Almost 28 long years had passed since I last saw Brother Kingsley, now an ordained priest. I was led to his room. Finally I saw him; there he lay on his bed, a beaming Fr Kingsley, head and beard shaven - paralyzed from neck below.

With the help of his left arm which is his only life line and very limited movement of his right hand, Fr Kingsley managed to pull me down and gave me a brotherly hug. He recognized me instantly as his memory is still intact. I sat by his bed, squeezed his palm with mine and looked at a man who was once a vibrant, enthusiastic young man, so full of zeal to be a priest and serve his people. Here is was, an ordained priest now lying like a dry piece of wood, totally helpless. Why God chose to alter the life of Fr Kingsley, I quietly wondered!

Kingsley Adikaram, a Jesuit from Sri Lanka was the unfortunate brutal attack of Hepatitis B while he was posted in Pakistan 11 years ago. The attack was swift and the damage was great. Fr Kingsley lost mobility of his body from neck down. His left hand was spared and a very partial movement of his right hand. Fortunately, the fierce disease spared his memory.

I sat beside Fr Kingsley for a good couple of hours reminiscing all the good things we did together while at Bangalore. Never once did I see in him show a sign of remorse, disappointment or discouragement. His face radiated with the same enthusiasm I had seen in him years ago.

Soon after his initial training in Bangalore, Br Kingsley proceed to Bombay for his Juniorate studies. He was then posted in Dublin for his studies in Philosophy. After the completion of his priestly studies, his dream was finally fulfilled. Much to the delight of his family, especially his aged mother, Fr Kingsley was ordained priest on 1994 in Sri Lanka.

Fr Kingsley immediately took up his pastoral ministry, serving at a Parish. That was all he had longed and hoped for, to serve the Lord and his ordinary people. A selfless man that he was, Fr Kingsley, after three years in the parish, volunteered to go to Pakistan to work in a parish in Karachi. He readily and willingly accepted the assignment. True of his Jesuit carism, he observed his vow of obedience to the will of God.

Fr Kingsley continued to enjoy doing fervent pastoral work at his new place in Pakistan. He was involved with very ordinary people and he was one with them. It was in the year 2000, the new millennium had just dawned and like everybody else, Fr Kingslesy also was ready to move forward. But it was not to be.

What started with a little fever and fatigue, ended up to be an event that halted his plans and completely changed the course of his life. The fever turned violent and Fr Kingsley rapidly lost weight. He could not walk without assistance. It was not long before the illness completely took over and made him bed ridden. The Hepatitis B virus had already reached his brain and his nervous system hit an irreversible damage. Fr Kingsley finally lost sensation and mobility of his whole body, now fully under the mercy of God and man.

His superiors then decided to fly him back to Sri lanka. The Jesuits left no stone unturned. The best doctors were consulted and the best medicines administered. But his illness was there to stay and it stayed. It was not long before Fr Kingsley finally resigned to the will of God. True to the spirit of Fr Ignatius Loyola, the founder of the Jesuit Order, Fr Kingsley’s companions take care of him with great affection. He is never a burden to them. Fr Kingsley receives friends and relatives, occasionally watches Television and uses the power of his left hand to send out short email messages to his friends around the world or receive a phone call.

Asked as to how he has endured all this suffering, Fr Kingsley was quick to say that it was not a suffering. “I have accepted the will of God and I have no regrets,” he says. Fr Kingsley has not lost complete faith either. He still follows a rigorous programme of oil massages and physiotherapy to keep him from further deteriorating. “I am of the hope I will be able to regain some of my mobility, if not all,” says a confident Fr Kingsley. “The only wish I ask God to grand I am to be able to sit up on my own and be able to celebrate Holy Mass every day,” he says.

Fr Kingsley is a role model for all the unfortunate men and women who are bedridden. He shows the the way never to give up and never to regret for what has happened but rather look forward to a brighter morning.

 

 

By Naveen Frank
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Comment on this article

  • Noel Perera, Sri Lanka

    Thu, May 15 2014

    Hi Navin,
    This is Noel Perera, one time co-novice at Mount.How are you doing?
    your write up on our friend
    Kingsley reached me after his passing away. I read it with tears of joy and sorrow. While I mourn his untimely death, I also celebrate his great life.
    It was nice of you taking all the troubles to visit him in SL. I am in the States. Keep in touch.
    Noel Perera

  • J. D'souza, Bangalore

    Sun, Aug 26 2012

    For paralysis & nerve related problems, there is a village called Palamner in AP, about 3 hours from Bangalore where numerous people have been successfully treated by a villager with herbal medicine, including very serious cases. This can be checked out for the servant of Jesus.

  • kishan kumar, banglore

    Fri, Apr 13 2012

    sir by gods grace v can heal your problem.... through spiritual healing..

  • Flo Mascarenhas, Kankanady Mangalore/Secunderabad A P

    Sun, Feb 26 2012

    What a tremendous witness of Christian faith & zeal ! May the healing power of Jesus touch & heal U completely Fr. Kingsley. Nothing is impossible with God Almighty ! Let all of us take the grwat example set by Fr. Kingsley. Thanks Naveen Frank for sharing with Daiji world the suffering of this great servant of God.

    Flo Mascarenhas.

  • Candle, Mangalore

    Sat, Feb 25 2012

    My sincere thanks to Mr.Naveen for extending our Mangaloreans heart across the sea.
    Fr. Kingsley, your story is filled with sadness and proud. Sad because you are the person of great enthusiasm, energetic, and full of positivism is undergoing dependence, makes everyone sad. Proud because even in your deep traumatic time you bring smile on your face concealing the reality of life to show people not to lose their faith and thankful to GOD in every moment of their life that is in joy and sorrow. Dear Fr, you scarified everything to the love of GOD.I am sure you don't need anything from us other than our prayers and our prayers are always with you. We pray almighty that to fulfill your wish to celebrate Holy Mass every day. At the same time we would like to make kind request to you, please remember us in your prayers, because you are the chosen one.

  • Elvira Rato, Pune

    Fri, Feb 24 2012

    Thanks Naveen for sending me thia article about Fr. Kingsley. An inspiration to all especially to those bed ridden. Have not met you for a long time, maybe will sometime. Shall keep this brave priest in my prayers.

  • Stephen Francis , Sri Lanka / Rome, Italy

    Thu, Feb 23 2012

    Fr Kingsley Adikaram - a smile amid suffering

    Fr Melvin Pinto, brought Naveen's article to my notice I endorse all comments already made. I've never met Fr Kinglsey it's the first thing next visit to SL-stephen. Dear Kingsley your faith has renewed mine and now I see what the genuine Jesuit formation can do to make one a saint.You have taken it in such a spirit. May the Lord take you by the hand and lead you on. The length of days is of little matter before the Lord for whom a thousand years are like a day. Consummatus in brevi explevit tempora multa. Pray for us from your bed of acceptance in the spirit of the Sume e suscipe. May the Lord give you the one thing you ask, his love and his grace and if it be his holy will, may slowly regain your powers. Nothing is impossible to the Lord. Let's leave the rest to Him who knows best. I am looking forward to meeting you soon. My gratitude to those who look after you so affectionately. In union of prayer
    stephen francis

  • Jayant Frank, Mangalore / mumbai

    Thu, Feb 23 2012

    Naveen,
    Your narration of Fr.Kingsley's ailment is very touching.God has blessed you to do this. Keep it up. It gives me great inspiration while reading such articles.
    Fr. Kingsley, I'll keep you in my prayers. Iam with you totally when you say that one day you will be able to again celebrate your mass.

  • ad, mangloor

    Wed, Feb 22 2012

    A true example of suffering in life. No human answers but its devine in nature. May LOrd take care of Father Kingsley, he is closer to the Almighty. Navin thanks for sharing this.

  • FRENNY J.DIAS, KALLIANPUR/BAHRAIN

    Tue, Feb 21 2012

    Dear Navin,
    Thank you for this touching article. This priest is an inspiration to all who suffer silently and doing the will of God. God bless him and fulfil his wish to be able to celebrate Holy mass every day.

  • Navin Shetty, Mangalore/Mumbai

    Tue, Feb 21 2012

    Dear Mohan, Thank you for forwarding this touching article from Mr. Naveen Frank. Fr.Kingsley is truly enlightened. MAY THE LORD BLESS HIM WITH STRENGTH TO FULFILL HIS WISH TO BE ABLE TO PERFORM THE DAILY MASS.
    Navin Shetty.

  • Ashok Frank, Mangalore/Canada

    Tue, Feb 21 2012

    Dear Navin,

    Very touching article. Fr. Kingsey's picture looks familiar, I'm not sure if I have met him at Mt St Joseph during your tenure.Thank you for keeping us  informed  and my  prayerful wishes to Fr Kingsely too.

  • Fred Pais, Bangalore

    Mon, Feb 20 2012

    Naveen, how on earth does one reconcile to a life like these, God's ways we cannot question, Fr. Kingsley, my prayer is for your continued faith in our Lord and for a Miracle by HIS generous mercy and forgiveness.

  • mohan Frank, Mangalore / Mumbai

    Mon, Feb 20 2012

    Dear Naveen,
    Iam proud of you for writing an article on Fr.Kingsley and also for paying him a visit at Nirmala Jesuit home.I appreciate the courage and will of this man , May God grant him better strength in the years to come.

  • Melwin Pinto, Mangalore, Rome.

    Mon, Feb 20 2012

    Fr. Kingsley is my companion in the novitiate and a close friend. During my visit to Sri Lanka in 2003 and when my sisters visited him last December he vividly recalled his visit to our home in Mangalore and displayed the same enthusiasm. May he inspire many more hearts to face suffering bravely in their lives. May God who has purpose for everything, be praised.

  • Dr.Anand T & Geeta N Pereira, Sakleshpur/Mangalore

    Mon, Feb 20 2012

    Dear Naveen,
    You have a gift of narrating true incidents in life which not only leave a lasting impact on the person who reads through the article, but more importantly, sensitizes the person to show empathy towards the needy. Thank you dear Naveen for these amazing true life stories. Our prayers are with Rev. Fr.Kingsley.

  • Sylvia Lobo, Kinnigoli

    Mon, Feb 20 2012

    Really inspiring article. May god give strength to Fr.Kingsley. Thank you Mr Naveen for such a lovely article

  • Alban D' Souza, Udyavara Mumbai Doha Qatar

    Sun, Feb 19 2012

    True story of a priest how they are suffering alone is touching to the individual. This priest is an inspiration to all who suffer silently and doing the will of God. Well written true story by Naveen Frank.

  • Reginald Lewis, Bangalore/Sharjah

    Sun, Feb 19 2012

    Dear Fr. Kingsley,

    Your shear faith in the Lord will surely get you back to serve the Holy Mass soon.

    We will remember you in our prayers.

    Abba Father,In name of your son our Lord Jesus please have mercy on your servant Fr. Kingsley & let you healing touch flow on him Lord.
    .

  • Cliffy, Mangalore

    Sun, Feb 19 2012

    Thank you Naveen for this touching article. I never knew Hepatitis B can give you paralysis. Fr.Kingsley is an inspiration for us all in our sufferings. Get well soon Fr.Kingsley.Praying for you.

  • A. S. Mathew, U.S.A.

    Sun, Feb 19 2012

    This is a very touching story.
    We don't know, why good people
    suffer through unexpected sickness
    and other calamities of life!
    But his GOD whom he served in his
    younger days is the same GOD today,
    and HE is able to raise him up and
    walk again. Let us all remember
    him in our prayers.

  • Alex D' Souza, Mangalore

    Sun, Feb 19 2012

    Dear Fellow followers of our Lord,

    I know someone who has been with HBV through blood trasfusion as there were no advanced tests earlier before blood transfusion for patients.

    Though for many years it was difficult for her to comprehend and adjust to new way of life, by sheer faith and prayer, she has started living a fuller life and is said to be completly cured.

    May the Lord's name be glorified in Fr.Kingsleys life through the miracles as in the early church. May His healing touch be available to Fr. Kingsley not through sympathy/emphathy but by His gracious mercy.

    Amen Amen to our above prayer.

    Thy Kingdom come Lord...Thy will be done...NOW.


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