Feb 8, 2011
Matrimonial websites have rapidly gone from being in the dark, almost like FarmVille on the web, to people’s acceptance.
With just a handful of websites that offered such services, there is now huge bulk of competing websites, and some even claim hundreds of marriages from their website.
Which website is effective and why I’ll post in some other article, but here are a few quick pointers for guys/gals with marriage on their minds. These are simple, non-gender specific dating tips. Let’s call these laws of kazaar.com:
No photo means something’s wrong. If there is no picture, there has to be a reason. Next profile please!
Photo selection – Don’t post a picture that was clicked in 1800 BC. Post a current picture of yourself. Also don’t post a picture that makes you look serious. Smiling leaves a positive impression always.
Acceptance – Many of us still have not accepted the concept of Internet Matrimony Search. It’s nothing to worry about. Just keep your eyes and ears open and rest all is the same as the proposal from a known person. Nevertheless investigate a proposal regardless of the source.
First impression is the last impression. Your profile is a representative of yourself. A honest and frank profile without stupid mistakes can do wonders for you..
Check your profile for grammatical errors and spellings. It’s worth the extra time it takes to review it.
Paid membership members are more serious in their search than non-paid members. I kind of realized this during my search.
Social Networking Sites – Use these sites to search and find out more about the person you met online. You never know – you might as well find that person with a bunch of mutual friends…
Have patience. Remember requests received may not be accepted the same day and vice versa.
Beware of fake profiles. If you find a Mr/Ms World online with extraordinary qualities, you might want to check again.
Remember you are on a matrimonial website for matrimony and not dating. Remember, guys/gals join in search of marriage prospects where elders enter the scene very early. In fact mostly it’s the parents who create the profile.
Don’t stereotype your profile. For example don’t write “Should be fun –loving etc” who doesn’t like that? Instead of that write what you feel like for example “I would love to go for a movie followed by a quiet dinner and finally ending the evening with a drive”
Emailing and Chatting are good but too much time on it is senseless. If there’s some chemistry, fix a meeting. Don’t make long term plans during the first meeting. If the chemistry continues during the meet too, there’s plenty of time to make elaborate plans but at the same time, if the person is a busy bee to make plans, then next profile please!!
All that glitters is not gold...Meaning whatever is written on profile might not be completely true…both guys and girls lie about something.
Be true about yourself. Past present and future... (mention your past during the first meet and present & future on your profile)
Express yourself clearly. Don’t hide your expectations, and aspirations. For example, if you’re a girl and looking for a partner with his own house mention it. For guys, if you like the girl to work after marriage or not, make sure you mention it.
Sixth sense factor – If you feel the person is showing signs of disinterest then listen to your sixth sense. It’s not necessary that it’s because of you. It might be some other factors. In this case too, next profile please!!
People over the age of 35 often have issues. And it’s not only men, but women too…one of the major reasons for their issues are their sharp inclination towards their careers. Keep this career thing in mind if you fall in this category.
Don’t take rejections personally. There are millions to choose from and one is made for you. After all our country’s population is over one billion...this should inspire you.
Saying 'no' is important. If you don’t like any member who sent you a request, don’t hesitate to say no at the initial phase itself. Saying no is as better than saying nothing. In case you find any member unsuitable after some communication, politely refuse.
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