Getting 'Net'ted for Life

Feb 8, 2011

Matrimonial websites have rapidly gone from being in the dark, almost like FarmVille on the web, to people’s acceptance.

With just a handful of websites that offered such services, there is now huge bulk of competing websites, and some even claim hundreds of marriages from their website.

Which website is effective and why I’ll post in some other article, but here are a few quick pointers for guys/gals with marriage on their minds. These are simple, non-gender specific dating tips. Let’s call these laws of

No photo means something’s wrong. If there is no picture, there has to be a reason. Next profile please!

Photo selection – Don’t post a picture that was clicked in 1800 BC. Post a current picture of yourself. Also don’t post a picture that makes you look serious. Smiling leaves a positive impression always.

Acceptance – Many of us still have not accepted the concept of Internet Matrimony Search. It’s nothing to worry about. Just keep your eyes and ears open and rest all is the same as the proposal from a known person. Nevertheless investigate a proposal regardless of the source.

First impression is the last impression. Your profile is a representative of yourself. A honest and frank profile without stupid mistakes can do wonders for you..

Check your profile for grammatical errors and spellings. It’s worth the extra time it takes to review it.

Paid membership members are more serious in their search than non-paid members. I kind of realized this during my search.

Social Networking Sites – Use these sites to search and find out more about the person you met online. You never know – you might as well find that person with a bunch of mutual friends…

Have patience. Remember requests received may not be accepted the same day and vice versa.

Beware of fake profiles. If you find a Mr/Ms World online with extraordinary qualities, you might want to check again.

Remember you are on a matrimonial website for matrimony and not dating. Remember, guys/gals join in search of marriage prospects where elders enter the scene very early. In fact mostly it’s the parents who create the profile.

Don’t stereotype your profile. For example don’t write “Should be fun –loving etc” who doesn’t like that? Instead of that write what you feel like for example “I would love to go for a movie followed by a quiet dinner and finally ending the evening with a drive”

Emailing and Chatting are good but too much time on it is senseless. If there’s some chemistry, fix a meeting. Don’t make long term plans during the first meeting. If the chemistry continues during the meet too, there’s plenty of time to make elaborate plans but at the same time, if the person is a busy bee to make plans, then next profile please!!

All that glitters is not gold...Meaning whatever is written on profile might not be completely true…both guys and girls lie about something.

Be true about yourself. Past present and future... (mention your past during the first meet and present & future on your profile)

Express yourself clearly. Don’t hide your expectations, and aspirations. For example, if you’re a girl and looking for a partner with his own house mention it. For guys, if you like the girl to work after marriage or not, make sure you mention it.

Sixth sense factor – If you feel the person is showing signs of disinterest then listen to your sixth sense. It’s not necessary that it’s because of you. It might be some other factors. In this case too, next profile please!!

People over the age of 35 often have issues. And it’s not only men, but women too…one of the major reasons for their issues are their sharp inclination towards their careers. Keep this career thing in mind if you fall in this category.

Don’t take rejections personally. There are millions to choose from and one is made for you. After all our country’s population is over one billion...this should inspire you.

Saying 'no' is important. If you don’t like any member who sent you a request, don’t hesitate to say no at the initial phase itself. Saying no is as better than saying nothing. In case you find any member unsuitable after some communication, politely refuse.


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by Robin Dyson Almeida
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Comment on this article

  • Premeena Menezes, Shirva/UAE

    Thu, Feb 10 2011

    Very well wriitten robbie... Have experienced same here.Thoughts r not the same bet young and old generation, still youngsters have to be carefull ing their life partners.At the same time pray to god for a perfect match..

  • Rakesh Dsouza, Mangalore, Dubai

    Wed, Feb 09 2011

    Nice and informative article. Thank yo Robin for the suggestions...!

  • Rashmi, Mangalore

    Wed, Feb 09 2011

    Very well written...

  • pulki, Bangalore

    Wed, Feb 09 2011

    Nice article thanks for the suggestions

  • Prakash Dsouza, Manglore

    Wed, Feb 09 2011

    Hi Robin, i agree with you totally. Not everything written is true and not every one is honest. The biggest problem with the web is that usually lets say you get a girl from mumbai or gujarath you wont know her background. I think it would be better to take just as one source of finding proposal and not entirely depend on these .coms. I know few of my friends got  proposals thru these websites, now married n lead a happy life. I also know few people put thier profile for timepass. Its really true that whenever we talk about internet we have keep our ears and eyes open.

    Some people disclose their mobile nos even before asked. They dont even take time to investigate or something later when the other person says NO they get hurted very soon.

    The right thing is to do is
    1) Send the invitation to the right profile
    2) Inititate discussion thru mail and dont share your phone no as of now.
    3) Mutually Share the best pics
    4) Invite him to chat and know more about that person, his family and his future plans etc etc.
    5) At this stage both of you feel that you can go ahead, decide further, best thing is to do is involving a elder in your family. So that tomorrow you have go out with him also you can inform your elder and they will definately permit you.
    6) Dont hurry!!!! give it sometime. As things might change over time. May be he got a better proposal than the current one.

    All i say being careful will prevent you from getting hurt or end up in a bad experience.

  • Raj, Belman

    Tue, Feb 08 2011

    Very Nice article Robin. Thanks for providing this infrmation for those who use online matrimonial sites to look for a new relationship through marraige

  • Julie, Mundkur / Doha

    Tue, Feb 08 2011

    Nice article Robin. Keep it up. Best of Luck.

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