Jan 18, 2011
Is Pre-marital Medical Test a MUST or a NECESSITY?
This question must be disturbing the minds of the parents as well as the youths. It is said that marriages are made in heaven, but in many cases they creates hell on earth. Discussion on sex or sexual matters is purposely avoided. We discuss about awareness of sex education and at the same time we read sex books, sexual articles in magazines, see adult films, read about sex in the newspapers and see TV Channels.
All these have direct or indirect adverse effects on the minds of the young generation, who are at risk of getting wrong or improper information through friends and media. It is very difficult to watch some of the TV serials along with our children not only because of the vulgarity but even delivery of double meaning dialogues. Unfortunately, there are no regular health tests and knowledge or awareness of the diseases in schools and colleges or educational institutions.
There are so many sicknesses and sexual problems among the youths in the present world, that they are afraid to discuss the subject with others. Whether the parents are rich or poor, children do not build up courage to discuss their sexual problems. In certain cases the youths do not know about the existence of sicknesses/sexual problems in them. Many are afraid even to talk about sex. It is considered a shame to talk on this subject sometimes. Those suffering from sexual problems increase their own problems. So in the absence of knowledge about the existence of any disease it is a better to go for the test before marriage.
Parents desire that their children should get suitable life partner and lead a healthy and peaceful married life. In the interest of both the parties, it is a healthy subject to discuss at the proposal stage itself rather than repent once everything is over. There are post-marriage problems like separation and divorce, and more fatal ones like murder, suicide, burning etc that take place in marriage. To avoid these problems, pre-marital medical test is necessary. I have heard about a couple of cases when the parents put forth this subject of ‘Pre-marital medical checkup’ at the time of proposal, the opposite party got disturbed and did not proceed further.
Some of the major areas we must stress during the pre-marital medical test are:-
Diabetes: India stands first so far as diabetic patients are concerned, the diagnosed cases or undiagnosed cases in India amount to 3.5 to 4 crore. Diabetes can be controlled by Ayurveda also. If it is not cured, the lust of the skin is lost. Therefore, there is a kind of despair both in men & woman. Today the ratio of diabetes is found in youngsters also.
Cancer: Cancer is not just one disease but many diseases. There are more than 100 different types of cancer. Most cancers are named after the organ or type of cell in which they start - for example, cancer that begins in the colon is called colon cancer. Common cancer types – bladder cancer, breast cancer, colon and rectal cancer, endometrial
cancer, kidney (renal cell) cancer, leukemia, lung cancer, pancreatic
cancer, prostate cancer, thyroid cancer, etc.
Impotency: If sexual ability is deprived, there remains no joy in life. In spite all, such a person cannot enjoy life. Only the ladies know such men cannot have the joy of sexual pleasure because, sexually they are weak. The wives of such men are not happy and cannot lead a happy married life.
AIDS: - The first AIDS patient in India was found in 1986. AIDS deprive strength. If AIDS virus enters into the body, the person becomes AIDS-affected. It takes a long time for the actual sufferance of AIDS. Therefore HIV test is necessary. If HIV test is taken, it does not mean that he is suffering from AIDS. The AIDS virus destroys T4 lymphocytes cells, hence even its entry leads to death. This is an issue that is affecting the entire humanity and hence adequate measures have to be taken to safeguard all.
Recently, the Kerala Women's Commission (KWC) has asked the state government to pass resolutions and, if necessary, a law to ensure that all those who get married undergo an HIV test. The commission made the request in the wake of several cases where men got married in spite of knowing that they were HIV positive.
Currently the divorce cases are on the rise, which may be due to lack of proper discussions before the marriage taking place. Marriage is not only union of two hearts, but also union of two families. Hence if things are discussed without hesitation with both family members in the initial stage, perhaps the marriage will lead to a healthy relationship. Hiding any sickness will also have an impact on the children to be born, so why should children suffer for the fault of their parents?
Keeping in mind the rate of increasing divorce cases and other post-marriage misunderstandings/conflicts taking place it is better that a step is taken to implement the practice of going for a pre-marital medical checkup.
Readers of Daijiworld may have their own positive or negative views on this subject, so it is left to the people to give a deep thought to this subject and write their comments for the benefit of the public at large irrespective of religion, caste or creed.