Is your Mobile Immobilizing you?

Jun 22, 2009

Strange are the ways of modern technology. You often believe that the gadget in your palm is there to make your life a bed of roses, a total breeze to let you zip through your day. But take a breather once in a while and reflect – our mobile phones are brimming with names and numbers, yet, how many of us care to really keep in touch with our loved ones?

Some month ago I read an interesting story in Archie comics. Veronica, the only daughter of a her stinking rich father, gets a new mobile phone, the only one in her middle-class gang of friends. While she’s still showing off, calls come in plenty. Not for her but for her friends Archie, Jughead, Betty and Reggie, each of their parents or friends calling up to ask favours. By and by everybody leaves and Veronica is left all alone. Moral of the story – the device helped her, not to get friends but to take them away. It was the beginning of isolation of the individual from the society. 

Oh, we all know how it is – life is moving at such a break-neck speed that our friends and family must simply understand. But understand what – that we do not have five minutes out of the 24 hours for a person we love? That we cannot afford to lose time in talking without reason? Or more importantly, listening? The day still has 24 hours, but ironically, modernity has reached a stage where instead of leaving us with more spare time, it has only shortened the days and lengthened our woes. The workload has become such that whatever little time we get we prefer to spend with the present friends rather than catching up with old ones.

Just consider where mobile technology has reached today. Long, long ago (or was it just about  a decade ago?) it was that marvellous device that was simply used as a portable phone making you accessible anytime, anywhere. Now, it is used for anything but calling. Games, pictures, music, internet, TV, radio, ask what you will and you have it on that little contraption they call mobile phone, or rather, a smart phone. 

My own case, I have to admit, is such. For me my phone is more like a companion, a friend really, with which (or rather, with ‘whom’) I can play, browse the net and listen to music. There is no question of boredom when my phone’s around. Yet, like many, I hardly use it to call or even SMS. I have numbers of all my old friends, but other than silly forwards we hardly get to see our names in each others’ phones. 

Of course, when I say all this, I do not take into account all those wonderful people for whom making calls is still the most important feature of a phone - most buyers today, especially the youth, look for the phone’s camera or music qualities rather than its network reception.

It is a similar case with social networking sites like Orkut. Your contact list is full of people who scripted your childhood and school life, yet, you remain as distant as strangers. Instead, you prefer to chat with actual strangers and after a time get bored even with them. Time was when letters were eagerly written and keenly awaited. When I look through some of the letters from my friends that I have preserved, I just wonder at the irony – I have the email ids and mobile numbers of those very friends, yet I kept in touch when I had neither. Writing a letter is more of an effort than sending an SMS, yet, somehow, it was easier to make time for writing letters.

Other than the usual excuse we give of the world being so much more competent and demanding, what reason could we give to this failure? Yes, it is a human failure, one among the many we have. One of the reasons could be, whether we like to admit it or not, that we tend to take people too much for granted. Your friend’s number is always there in your phone, there is always a tomorrow to call him/her up, so why bother calling up now? No, not now, when your favourite serial is about to start. And oh, you can always send a message through Orkut, but then you simply forget. Never mind, what’s the hurry anyway? Nobody’s expecting your message.

And moreover, it is common to think of some long lost friend or acquaintance having a hidden agenda for calling you up after so many years. Why would anyone call after five years just like that? That also becomes a reason not to call – he/she will surely think you are calling up to ask some favour, so better not call. For all you know, your friend might have even forgotten you.

(Now I don’t think Anil Ambani and Hrithik Roshan would agree with that, yet it is strange how Hrithik in the Reliance advertisement has numbers of his old friends even though 10 years have passed…hmm…was he simply waiting for Ambani to start Reliance GSM service to call them up? And could our own reasons for not keeping in touch be as flimsy?)

People just drift apart, the society becomes more individualistic day by day and each has to forever struggle for survival. Yet, in this struggle do not forget those who gave you a shoulder to cry on once upon a time or helped you climb over a wall that you just couldn’t reach. Grab that phone and call up. That is what I need to do. 

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Comment on this article

  • famida, manglore

    Thu, Aug 13 2009

    Its a good article Anisa Fathima. Come up with more such  articles. All the best

  • appu, dammam

    Tue, Jun 30 2009

    incredible. what a nice article.keep it up.

  • riyaz mh dammam KSA,

    Sat, Jun 27 2009

    very nice article. keep writing.

  • Santhosh Emmanuel Pathiyottil, Kadaba/Bangalore

    Fri, Jun 26 2009

    Anisa -Good article.All the best.

  • Sunil D''Souza, Mangalore/Qatar

    Tue, Jun 23 2009

    Good article AnisaKeep writing, all the best.

  • Anil M. Lobo, Brahmavar / Bangalore

    Tue, Jun 23 2009

    Wonderful Article. Keep writing.

  • Dils, mangalore

    Tue, Jun 23 2009

    Welcome back after a long usual good article.  I am your greatest fan

  • A.D''Cunha Shenoy, Mangaluru

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Very appropriate article Anisa. The medern technology has invaded everyones life. Some might argue it has done life better, may be, but I am not convinced. Somebody is making money in the name of instant communication at someones cost- its you the moble user.

  • Joseph Paul Mendonca, Sooda / Mulky

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Very good article indeed. I felt like it was directed at me. God bless you Fathima.

  • Sonam S, Mangalore,US

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Good article indeed,Best of luck for your future.Keep it up dear anisha..

  • Zachariah, Bahrain

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    It is a good article for new generation and all the best and wishing your all success Fathimma

  • riyaz sky, bahrain

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Congratulations Fathima.


    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Congratulation Anisha Fathima this is Good & Nice Article it is very intresting Article for young generation best of luck for your future keep it up

  • Saira, India

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Nice article, best of luck for the future

  • Sanjana Pai, Madikeri

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Good one anisha,your article really rocks as usual.All the best for you future.

  • Ramya Shetty, Mangalore

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Nice article anisha, very interesting to read till the end,keep it up god bless you.

  • Lancy M F , M lore

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    It''s very nice and realisitic. you have anallysed the right way of using mobile though it can bore and distract you most times. keep up writing thought provoking writeups.


    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Come on readers.. start calling up your friends... do recharge with purchasing extra battery too...

  • Sharath M, Mangalore

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    I agree your comments dear Trisha,but nowadays its a part of our life.We cant be without mobile. Only we have to do is try to avoid use of it as much as possible,then only we can get time.All the best anisha.Keep it up.

  • D.M.D''Souza, Bantwal

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    I appreciate your style of writing, its easy,keeps interest till the end, and relevant. Keep it up- u have a great future. May God Bless & enlighten u more.

  • Roopa s, Mangalore

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Congratulations Fathima anisa.Good Article.Expecting more such article from you.All the best.

  • Trisha, Mangalore

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Its a Very interesting article Anisa.Keep it up. whatever u have mentioned is 100% true.We all are so much involved in our busy life that we tend to forget our close ones. All the Best.

  • Aqil C, S.G rd, Bangalore

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Good article for young generation.You explained well in detail. All the best.

  • Shobha Prabhu, Bangalore,Paris

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Congratulations Fathima.Very interested article,may god bless you.Keep it up.

  • Wilson Saldanha, shirthady/ Kuwait

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Very touching article. We create ''excuses'' in the name ''reason'' for not keeping in touch. The call charges per minutes at present are much more cheaper than the postage charges during last decade. Still we make lesser calls than we used to write letters previously.

    I realise that forwarding the junk is not keeping in touch. Making a call or writing an email/letter is truely remembering. really an eye opener article. Keep it up Anisa.

  • Ligoury Fernandes, Joseph Nagar, Jeppu

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Congratulations Anisa. Keep it up. Wish you all the best. Bro Loy`s family

  • Shama M, Mangalore,US

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Nice article anisa.Keep writing.I just love to read your article.Last time also u wrote good.All the best dear.

  • cyril mathias, udupi

    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Nice and thought provoking article.The boys and girls of your age must read this.

  • sayed asharf addur, dammam

    Sun, Jun 21 2009

    really it is very very good, Keep writing. thks Anisa Fathima and all of daiji readers...


    Mon, Jun 22 2009

    Good Article Anisa Fathima.Keep writing, enjoy writing and let us enjoy with your articles.Ihave one e-book related to personal development really it is very very good. I can forward it to all of daiji readers free.Interested can contact me on: or

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