Matilda Lobo, Karkala - Dubai

I strongly agree with Safa. Eventhough well educated girls in Mangalore are suffering from the interference and fault finding in bride as well as partiality among daughter and daughter-in-laws i have seen. I have strongh feelings to bring out these things to public and make some social awarness so that atleast some people (specailly in laws and hopeless husbands) will be enlighten and stop these kind of immature deaths. I cant imagine if victim had child and what would be situation!!!!
I agree with A.S Mathew. they must be punished.

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Karthik, Kaup

Mr Rajesh I presume that u r person with same thoughts as husband of the victim

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Jagdish k, naringana

Edondu article gulf news nalli odiddu. Parents pay doctors top dollar to turn their girls into boys. CLAIMS THAT 300 CHILDREN HAD SEX CHANGE OPERATIONS BEING INVESTIGATED. Londen:-Indian doctors have been accused of conducting sex change operations on young girls whose parents want sons to improve the family's income prospect. Madhya Pradesh State government is investigating claims that up to 300 girls were surgically turned into boys in one city after their parents paid abuot 2000 dollar each for the operations. India's gender balance has alrady been tiited in favour of boys by female foeticide-sex ion abortions-by families who fear the high marriage costs and dowries they may have to pay. Edannu prachara madidavaru,THE TELEGRAPH GROUP LIMITED LONDON 2011. Gulf news 1.7.2011 edition. inthah katheu ede slige seruthade.

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Kusuma Kumari G Naidu , Nellore/Kundapura

sad indeed The girl and her husband could have undergone some counseling That would have helped Anyway I am really saddened by this incident. There is no problem that cant be solved thorugh dialogue and ideas.

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Jennifer Pereira, Mangalore/Canada

Well, being born and brought up in Mangalore, my heart is saddened by the immature death of a 22 year old woman. No matter what caste, creed, race or religion, I would expect a person identified to have emotional issues have the flexibility of reaching out to Social/Community Services for help. I have left India many years ago and not sure what sort of facilities are available to distressed individuals however I strongly request that help & support knock the door of one that is in dire need of it. Always remember, it could have been you or I that could have been in her situation. We need to be sensitive and respectful of each other. Not all individuals are strong and can bear the brunt of atrocities. We need to help. May her soul rest in peace.

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safa, uae

its not the girls who need education on adjusting n accepting his family, its the guy's family who need to accept her as family and make her feel better cos its she who is alone, and come from outside. husbands family should stop interfering in their personal life as well. its all because of the sister-in-laws and brother-in-laws all the problem begins. they always find faults in the bride and fill their mothers ears. Also mother-in-laws are partial between her daughters and daughter-in-laws.

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Molly, Mangalore

Ethan, Mangalore/Florida
yr comments suits for indians living in America, where women are treated equally as men.Women can ill treat husband/family family members there, coz she knows if she get divorced she gets half of the property or govt will suport her. BUT this is not the case in India.

India is a male dominated country. what MARIA said is right. here if the wife can live her own she can ask for divorce and if she can't afford to live her own or there is no parental support... she will kill hereself, at times along with kids. Also in India society treats bad for divored women.

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Uday Shetty, Shirva, Doha/Qatar

Very sad incident. Suicide is not a remedy for sufferings. @ Mr Rajesh, my wife is like daughter to my mother and same is vice versa also. My father is expired during college period. As long as I was in India, both my mother and wife stayed under one roof. After 6 years we are out of India miss her very much

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Rajesh, Mangalore

Mr uday shetty u said girls should be thought / told to accept inlawsis ur wife staying with ur parents??

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Ethan, Mangalore/Florida

Maria/Moodbidri..Of course M'lore is not America but enough M'loreans are there in America...we are talking here about the human nature of people here not about the infrastructure, where as intelligence, wisdom has no boundaries whether it is America or the remotest village in India or sub Saharan desert in Africa, Character of a person/s is seen by the way he/they deal with another human being not by the infrastructure facility you have at your disposal! you are welcome to criticize Maria but be specific!

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Mahesh Kumar, Mangalore/Bangalore

Please don't publish disturbing photos.(2nd from top)

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Norbert Sequeira, Mumbai

Beautiful Picture coverage by DaijiWorld. I pray for peace in the family. Life has been given by God. We have no right to take it away, whatever may be the situation, troubles, tribulation. God has a plan for each one of us.

Daiji readers an appeal to those in extreme situations, take advice from councillors, meet a priest or guru or elders. But never have the evil inclination, that by taking your own life, you will be at peace. Remember, God does not wish such souls. They are left in wilderness.

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Maria , Moodbidri

Ethan, Mangalore/Florida
First of all remember this is not America, this happened in India. The news itself says that husband's family and husband are totured enough/abusers? dead woman did not come to narrate her story.This is from people who seen her day to day. more over there is no 911 call like America to call the cops, & there are at yr doorstelp with minute.

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Uday Shetty, Shirva, Doha/Qatar

As per the news - they have started living separately within 15 days of the marriage. Parents should teach the girls to treat their inlaws just like their own parents. At the same time husband also should convince wife to accept parents like own parents. The upbringing of children should be to live in a bigger family than going for a nuclear family. There should be proper counselling from parents.

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Amin Bhoja, Patte

sucide is not the ultimate solution to our problems. we have to try to live in a peaceful atmosphere. sometimes we are more arrogant to ours problems.Marriage is a bond between husband and wife, we too respect each other,should solve the problems each other.  Blame game always ends in a negative result."GOD" knows who is right and who is wrong. Let the law take its own course.

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Naveen, Dubai ,UAE

What the hell going on in our Manglore .day by day there is shocking news . why people dont want to live peace fully .ok her in-laws deserve something .hang them in-front of public on wards no body will torture there daughter in lows ...

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Jawar D'Souza, Doha/M'lore

No one knows the real reason for the Suicide, its better to leave the matter to the law to solve it. As they were staying separately how can In Law's torture her over the mobile.

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Ethan, Mangalore/Florida

What a 'Mob' mentality of so called 'Intelligent' people of Mangalore with such comments ' Hang them''Punish them' 'Show them No Mercy', especially the one's from abroad, I am really terrified to stay in Mangalore it looks like people have been blinded by violence and nothing else, there seems to be lack of patience...what would happen if the Husband and his whole family is innocent and later you came to know the fault lies in the girl, I have seen and experienced the arrogance of women they shall go to any extent to make the Husband and in-laws suffer just because their wish has not been met no one is a 'Saint' here most of the time just to satisfy the 'Ego' of a woman whole family suffers for a life time, I just hope the people would regain their sense's and be and act as a normal human beings.

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Ramprashanth, Mangalore/Bangalore

@Vdeepak , mangalore/dubai
Good catch. From the above picture one can make out that her legs are touching the floor. If it is a suicide will she not try to saver herself at last moment?

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Gafoor Mh Dubai, Manjeshwar

Mr. Rajesh i fully agree with u. Men should be bold in family.

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Shalini, Kinnigoli

Rajesh, i totally disagree saying husbands are stuck in between. Is he deaf and blind?? Cant he see or hear his wife's troubles and help her. Her husband should be hammered left right and centre. Now he will get married again and lead another life, killing somone elses daughter.I will blame her husband for allowing his mom and sister to interfere in this personal life. Severe punishment should be given to them.

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Steve, Kuwait

It's all happening in Mangalore now. Family problems are getting worst day by day. If the girl is educated in such cases it will end in divorce or if the girl is helpless then it will be suicide. There will be thousands suffering like this. This trend will be common unless both married men and women change their attitude .

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sailakshmi rai, mangalore

@ Mr. Rajesh...acc to ur comment it seems that the lady who committed suicide is responsible & husband is not responsible...so it means in future if the same incident happens vid ur sister , ur sister only vll be responsible for everything not her husband....wht a stupid & cheap thinking ur having,......without knowing the fact do not comment which is not true & required

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Shaheen Mansoor, Mangalore/Dubai

The main reason behind the torture will always be the backbitting by sisters or bros who spoil the relationship, Two women can never stay happy in one house, however may be the people around but it is a Husband's support for a girl married.. Our life is God's gift to us and what we make of it is our gift to God! praying God for all women to make her strong
May her soul rest in peace.

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Salvadore Saldanha, Karkala, Kuwait.

Government must open couselling services all the place to save invocent life. but our Karnataka government very bessy in corruption. Every day we see new allegations and counter-allegations of corruption hurled by politicians at each other.May her soul rest in peace.

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Kavitha, Mangalore

I dont think people should blame her in-laws or husband. This statement is only from the girls family. May be her husband and in-laws are in shock. It seems, she was very stubborn and within few days after her marraige, she convinced her husband to separate from his parents for which her in-laws were deeply hurt and for small reason b/w husband and wife she committed suicide.

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Vdeepak , mangalore/dubai

Guys does it not seems like a murder!!!Check out...the platform of the kitchen is so near!!if she had jumped from the platform ...last moment in a panic wouldn’t she had tried saving herself...just a logical ask!!!
Since its the suicide my logic stands wrong also!!!..Thinkable thought isn’t it..

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Padmanabha Shenoy, Udupi/Saudi Arabia

Very sad indeed. These days girls do not have patience and they always need to stay away from husbands family. Staying in jointfamily should be taught for girls by the parents before the marriage.

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sowmya, mangalore

Husband & in-laws doing such crimes should be severely punished.They should be ashamed of themselves by killing their own daughter in law,who is also like a daughter.May the soul rest in peace.

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Rajesh, Mangalore

Most of the time women are the ones who create such issues. And the poor husband is stuck in between. That is why usually the father in law is not a part of such cases. A woman should understand another woman's feeling. When there is a proper understanding, then there is no cause for any issue.

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Ibrahim, Jeddah

I remember one incident about a lady many years before. When this lady's husband died, some priests came to her home to shave her head and forcing her to wear red saree. Immediately Women's Association took up the issue and rushed to her rescue and chased away priests from her home.

In this case as well Women's Association must take up this matter and start a bold movement to do the inquiry using powerful media as effective tool and send the culprits behind the bar. If public do not act this will be routine matter for police and crimes/suicides continue. We have immense human power, together we can fight and send a message.

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Cynthia, Mangalore

India is a great place for women. Jai hindu-stan.

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Dev, Mangalore

Some years back a newly wed girl, living with her hubby & mother in law hanged herself within a few months of marriage, when her husband & mother in law were not at home. Later it was found she married to save the honour of her family, while she was in love with someone from different community. She just couldn't replace her husband in the place of her first love. Fortunately she had written a sucide note & her mother in law was with her daughter from many weeks.
Another Side of the COIN-
Recently a young man commited suicide to escape from torture of his wife & in laws, who continuously threatened him with Dowry Harrassment case as well as physical harm should he keep in touch with his family, within a year of getting married.
SOLUTION-
Provide Helpline 24x7 for councelling & advertise it in all media free of cost- so that they can atleast try to save their souls with timely help.

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Tony, Mangalore/Sydney

Very sad and what a shame a young and beautiful life is lost for ever!. These sort of deaths will go on unless the entire society changes and get rid of its old way of thinking, taboos, and some cultures - we still carry on with our old and out-dated systems and issues like how much dowry, gold ornaments the bride has brought, the domination of in-laws, etc. The Government and the welfare agencies also have a role to play here to bring in legislation to get rid of the old customs and also offer moral support and couselling services, and they should act fast in this regard.

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Abdul Salam, Mangalore/Abudhabi

are we really from the district called "buddivantara jille".We teach our todays generation of communal hatred and see that our maneya soso gets sucided. Hang this culprits in public.

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GILBERT, mangalore

Very sad news .There should be good counseling centers important in Mangalore for all religions.

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akash, Mangalore

Very bad, culprit should be punished.May her soul rest in peace.Thank God

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Dave, Mangalore

Why this has become "Gar Gar ki Kahani" all over India I wonder.
Well to be frank with you- many years back it was my "Gar ki Kahani"-too.
Why parents & in laws do not accept a girl grown in different environment as their own daughter or sister & give her little more time to adjust to her new environment, while they want their daughter to be treated better, by her in laws & husband.
When gender ratio is going down drastically & many eligible bachelors remain life time bachelors-these things make us bow our head down with disgust & shame.
WHY WE WON'T TREAT THEM AS LAXMI & HARBINGER OF OUR FUTURE(GENERATION).

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jagdish k , naringana

Streeyarige apayakari deshadalli Bharat desh 5ne stanadalli ide anta ondu article Gulf news peparalli bandittu.Adannu navu satya madabekalla.Ahaa namma prarabdave.

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rajesh Shetty, yekkur

We the Indian public are too judgemental.

She already stays at a seperate house away from in laws. Why you still blame them.

Secondly, when she was with inlaws they were the culprits and now husband is the culprit. Is it not possible that girl herself was too over sensitive and a emotional person.

may her soul rest in peace. She was a pretty lady.

We all should think about freeing our society from hatred and misconceptions and love our kids to make them secure human beings.

Most people here have already passed judgement without being fully aware of the situation, which is very immature and is a reflection of our societies attitude.

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Dr S Kamath , Mumbai

It is Gruesome how much suffering that Lady might had before taking such a Decision .Research has shown that Most often before the suicide there will be dialogue that I will commit suicice or the husband says go and hang yourself etc .Hence I Request everybody please never say these words to anybody or whenever anybody says these words try to support them alleviate their sufferings .above all everybody in the Society should pray God Let all be Happy and Blissful

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Valson Mendonsa, Mangalore/USA

This is so comman in India, 99% of times IN-LAWS are responsible and they poison everything and all over,that is reason why, when any Boys try to get marry, girls asks just one questions to the boys "Do You Have Your Own House Separate House"?

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Jaison D'silva, Belman

Sad to hear this type of incidents from our district. We are the most educated dist. in the state!!! We are topper in Education!!! With this type of incident we also get the top rank in criminals!!!

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neil, uk

wrong... wrong... wrong... however bad the situation was..suicide was not the answer..nor the solution...
failure of the support system in society.
some comments are just disgusting :hang them with the same rope: treat the sister and mother in law in the same way:sad
get into the root cause.
materlism...greed...anger are eating our lives.

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Raj, Mangalore / Dubai

The departed soul will not allow the culprits to live in peace. A day will come and they ... will be judged in the same stick.

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Shalet pereira, isreal(mangalore)

Very sad news,pls hang all of them
in the public. they are unfit to live. may her soul rest in eternal peace.

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A. S.Mathew, U.S.A.

The girl was a beautiful person
and her life was cut off by the
united attack by the in-laws along
with her heartless husband.

He and his family must be strictly
punished without any mercy. They
acted like wild animals, not as
human beings. We need not have to
show any mercy to wild animals.

Thousands of helpless ladies are
in the same boat without any
escape route, but the society
and the government have no concern
to fix this most dangerous situation.

This is a very heart-breaking news
to read. Let her soul rest in
peace.

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Lancelot N. Tauro, Manglore - Doha Qatar

PREVIOUS MANGALORE IS GONE... NOW IT TURNED TO CRIMINALS PARADISE.

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Clifford, Mangalore

Everything has one common cause that is human greed. All these people should be severely dealt with by law and the public should bycot them.

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Shekar Moily Padebettu, Padebettu/Udipi

Now a days what is happening in Mangalore?.Everywhere murder,suicide and what else.It is too pity that such precious life has been lost in a short span of her married life due to her husband Pravinchandra,his mother and sister.Shame on these people.My heartfelt condolence to the bereaved family and I pray God to rest Chandrika Suvarna's departed soul in eternal peace.I earnestly request the police. department to punish severely whoever is responsible. Such crime should not happen in future.Uncivilized people.

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richard, mangalore/ abu dhabi

Hang all of them and that cowered husband

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diana, dubai

Court should hang in-laws with same rope without any inquiry.

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ash, mangalore

Shame on those people,pravinchandra,his mother & sister.let his sister face the same problems when she is married,that is the best way to face reality.my deep condolences to the deseased family.they should take prompt action against this incident.

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Imran Kaup, Dubai

No mercy ... Hang all of them in the public > They are also unfit to live >

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ABDUL RAHIMAN, DUBAI/KUPPEPADAV

very sad news,jest married and end the life,,,our society,y mother in law not thinking she also daughter,,

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Pamy Nelson Saldanha, panjimogaru / dubai

Please punish the people behind this act. Girls be brave try to face the cruelty of such in-laws.

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ISMAIL K PERINJE, PERINJE/YANBU-KSA

What is going on in Managalore??Bad news after bad news against women!!!Why?These trends alien to Mangaloreans.Wake up folks condemn
these atrocities against women folks.The guilty of this particular case must be given maximum punishment under the law.May the soul rest in eternal peace.

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