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New York, Jun 22: Saying “sorry” has become an automatic response for many women, even in situations where they have done nothing wrong. Psychologists suggest that this habit is not merely a personality trait but often a result of years of social conditioning and expectations placed on women from childhood.

Research by psychologists Karina Schumann and Michael Ross has found that women tend to apologise more frequently than men. Their study suggested that women are not necessarily responsible for more mistakes, but often perceive a wider range of actions or situations as requiring an apology.

Experts say many women are conditioned to be more accommodating, avoid conflict and prioritise others’ emotions, leading to habits such as apologising before asking questions, expressing opinions or raising concerns.

Therapists have also linked excessive apologising to the “fawn response”, a psychological pattern described by Pete Walker, where individuals attempt to avoid conflict by becoming overly agreeable. For some people who experienced unpredictable or stressful environments, quickly saying sorry may have developed as a way to maintain peace and prevent confrontation.

However, psychologists point out that this behaviour is not always linked to personal experiences. Cultural expectations also influence the way women communicate. Women who display assertiveness are often judged more critically, which can encourage them to soften their words and avoid appearing confrontational.

From a young age, many girls are encouraged to be polite, considerate and sensitive to others’ feelings, while boys are more often encouraged to be direct, confident and independent. Over time, these different expectations can shape communication patterns.

Experts warn that constantly apologising without reason can affect confidence and the way others perceive a person, particularly in workplaces. Excessive apologies may unintentionally create an impression of uncertainty or reduced self-assurance.

At the same time, psychologists emphasise that apologies themselves are not harmful. A genuine apology is an important part of healthy relationships, but there is a difference between accepting responsibility and automatically making oneself smaller.

Recognising unnecessary apologies can help people understand that the habit may not be a reflection of who they are, but a behaviour shaped by years of social and emotional influences.