Sorry mom, dad – 14-year-old Jasmitha commits suicide fearing exam

Tue, Mar 12 2019 03:26:07 PM

Daijiworld Media Network – Madikeri (MS)

Madikeri, Mar 12: In a heart-wrenching incident that occurred in Hosakeri of the taluk, a 14-year-old student studying in ninth standard committed suicide after jumping into a nearby lake because of examination scare.

Jasmitha (14) is the unfortunate victim of this sad incident. She had written her Maths paper on Monday, March 11. After arriving home from the examination, Jasmitha wrote the death note and jumped into the lake.

Contents of death note

“Mom and Dad, you wanted to educate me to a good level. I also wanted to study. But I always ended up playing. I wanted to see Amya getting married. However, today I have made a big mistake. I have decided to go somewhere. You have reared me nicely, gave good education to me, but I could not study.

“Mom and Dad, I love you people more than my life. I like everyone. I am bringing a very bad name for you people. I knew that I am not going to pass the ninth standard. So I have decided to go somewhere. I love you mom and dad. Today the respect of all three of us is gone. So I decided to take this step.

“Brothers and sisters, I like all of you. I like brother-in-law, Pavana and Jeevan very much. Ramya your marriage should be celebrated in a grand manner. I will remember all of you very much.”

A case in this regard stands registered in town police station.

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Gurudath, M'lore/Mumbai
Wed, Mar 13 2019
Very disturbing. Always tell your children that you love them because they are your children. Not because what they achieve. Encourage them but don't pressurise. Let them know beyond doubt that you are there for them no matter what.

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Daniel, Mangalore
Wed, Mar 13 2019
RIP Jasmitha, Oh that Time, one that moment could stop her.
Innocent face dis appeared and we are the culprits.
Bloody our education system and society that in full COMPETITION taking out the childhood from children.
All parents use their kids as Machine... to get high grades thinking no life other than that becoming rich.
God, Hope no other child again undergo this,

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Ozy, Mangalore
Wed, Mar 13 2019
My dear children passing exams and getting degree is not the last goal. Remember every human has given a unique talent my God. Parents should discover this and put the child in that direction and not to force this stupid learning of so many subjects which is unnecessarily imposed on by this brainless education department and fanatic government.

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Rita, Germany
Wed, Mar 13 2019
Very sad and tragic case.We see such cases are increasing dramatically rapid.somehting must be done and fast.Young students children are falling prey to this .As exam nears ,fear and are nervous.Of course in our time too we were.But now their age is less,exam pressure is big,lessons are too much.Parents are putting pressure to come first,teachers want some name to their school,ranks.Opfer are students.some arent good,some are from beginn have no problems and comeout with flying colours.when othersarent,then home people start with their children to give long Sermon.Parents please understand your child first,Make them couragious.All cant be doctors or engineers,.there are some dropouts from schools successfull in their life with other things.so please first only help them to their success ,not downfall.I only feel wth parents of this girl and sympathize.May her soul rest in peace.Best is some child psychology person can help in schools.

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Edward Maben, Kudla
Wed, Mar 13 2019
While I am not blaming anyone for this gut wrenching news, we need to accept cold reality.

The very fact the way we grown our children. Most of us aren't making our kids head strong these days. We spoil them a lot thinking they should lead better lives than us. And so we work and work and work. Husband and wife both work. We work so hard there is no quality family time. And there is no counselling or communication within family. And most of us expect our kid to be bright, studious and a rank hold like the other kid in class.Comparison. I hope sincerely that we realise

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Ignatius DSouza, Kanajar
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Very very sad to learn that a young girl ended her life by jumping to the lake. May her soul rest in eternal peace.

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Ignatius DSouza, Kanajar
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Very very sad to learn that a young girl ended her life by jumping to the lake. May her soul rest in eternal peace.

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Arman, Dubai
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Speachless.... Just speachless.. no idea whome to blame or criticise. A socity which treats children badly for not good with education is never a society but a disaster..

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Max, Mangaluru
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Its really a heartbreaking one. May her soul RIP. But I think if she has no guts to face the school exams then she cannot face the big exam called "life".

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Shekar Moily Padebettu, Udupi/India
Tue, Mar 12 2019
14-year-old Jasmitha's bold and uncalled step is really heart-wrenching and horrifying.After going through the contents of her letter I literally cried. Unforgettable,irreparable loss to her parents,who groomed her so nicely to this level.She shouldn't have taken this extreme step just in the fear of failing.By failing in the examination,doesn't mean that it is an end of our life.There are many instances,wherein failed students also excelled in different fields in their life.We can not blame only children.Parents,schools where children are studying are also equally responsible and blamed.Because nowadays education system is such that institutions are mainly focusing on hundred per cent result and grade,where as parents are pressurizing their children to focus more on studies in order to secure highest percent,rank at the cost of children's other activities.Children are forced to be their slaves.No one guide,no one to counsel the students.One way traffic.Unlike in the past,where joint family was in force,somebody from the family will come and console,advise,encourage and pour in positiveness to enhance students confidence.But in the present set up of nuclear family those things are only in books but in reality those are not in vogue.Under such circumstances,when students trapped in any such unwanted situation,they become panic,can't face the eventualities and bottom line is extremes like this.Very sad.Om Shanthi Jasmitha.RIP.HEARTFELT CONDOLENC TO THE BEREAVED FAMILY MEMBERS,ESPECIALLY TO THE PARENTS OF JASMITHA.

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Rudy, Udupi
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Even relatives, neighbors in general society is responsible. There is no one to listen child's education problems. In Dakshina Kannada and Udupi district students who have taken Arts and their parents also go through lot of embarrassment among relatives friends and neighbors.

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Pearl, Dubai
Wed, Mar 13 2019
Indeed tragic. I agree with everything you said. Except about joint and nuclear family. I raised my kids alone, without much helpfrom family. Selfresprct above allbis what I taught them. I have 2 kids answering boards currently. They have my support no matter the outcome. More than mothering, they need friendship and our prayers.
I doubt it has anything to do with joint families

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SUNNY DSOUZA, MARNIMIKATTE MANGALORE
Tue, Mar 12 2019
No word's to console
Our education system is Dirty and rigid
People who are heading this system should be published

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Dr. Haneef Shabab, Bhatkal
Tue, Mar 12 2019
After going through the death note of this little flower... I have no words to express sorrow.
RIP

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Cynthia, Kirem
Tue, Mar 12 2019
It's really painful to go to the contents of the death note of sweet little girl. Parents, If you know the child is weak in studies please don't pressurise him/her more and more. Instead..fill in them hope and courage....sit with them talk to them, if possible try to understand why that subject is tough.. If possible you only teach them by making them to write the answers..you need not to be a highly qualified tution teacher. Condlences to the bereaved family.. Rest in peace dear

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Lionel Dsouza, Mangalore
Tue, Mar 12 2019
TILL 10TH BOARD EXAMS.....SHOULD NOT BE FAILED...

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Roshan Braganza, Mumbai
Tue, Mar 12 2019
The concept of exams must be done away with ..

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jason, mangalore/kuwait
Tue, Mar 12 2019
yup i agree with u , children shud b given time to play along with studies,
school 5 days a weak, they need to have some time to relax

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Joe, udupi
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Children are more pressurised by parents reason is if their son or daughter fails or get less mark it is insult to them in society....only because of that children have to ait in class for 8hrs and 4 hrs in tuition classes every day

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Rudy, Udupi
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Very sad. May her soul rest in peace. May God give strength to her parents and loved once to bear her loss.

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Deepak, Mangalore
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Anything happening in this world..known to god. After all death and birth is in the hands of god. We cannot able to prevent it. Only need excuse to die. It's called karma...fate or destiny and it's pre-written. All parents think good of childrens.
Nobody can change it. It's not at all mistake of parents. We cannot blame them. What happened is not good. Even cannot be avoided it.

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Navin Shetty, Manipal/ Bahrain
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Don’t blame the parents guys. Every parent wants their kid to study well. If the kid cannot take exam pressure or cant study well, how can he/ she survive in the tomorrows competitive world?

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Anil, Mangalore
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Recognising the red flags is such situations is very important. Most of our educational institutions don’t have councillor’s and support groups who can help such children who are in distress. Teachers should be trained to notice warning signs and abnormal behaviour in children . Unfortunately our educational system is only about getting good grades . How many more children do we have to loose to revamp the educational system?

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Raj, Managalore
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Very Well said Anil!.

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Cynthia, Kirem
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Very well said by you..

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Mohammed, Moodbdiri/Muscat
Tue, Mar 12 2019
RIP Jasmith, too young to take this extreme step daughter. This is high time to relax education system and pressure school puts on students. They are small kids and study is not everything for them. They have to play, sleep, eat live life happily and grow up. Schools are competing against each other to book more seats and make money. They put lot of pressure on students and same is shared to the parents. Not only school teachers but also students and parents at home are under tremendous pressure through out the academic year just trying to get more and more grade behind students. The student who take subject lightly is demotivated and even teachers put so much pressure on parents they lose cool on their own children. Just imagine how this taught must have come to this little kid who should dream of better tomorrow. GOD save our education system.

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Augustine Daniel DSouza, Udupi Mumbai STATE OF KUWAIT.
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Very deeply sorry for this young girl 14 yrs. suicide case. May her Soul Rest in Peace.

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dk shetty, mangalore/Oman
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Childeren these days are more smarter and intelligent. They are certainly better than their parents in terms of achievements. However certain parents unnecessarily get worked up and pile pressure on kids to perform better, and do the comparisons with other kids. which is totally wrong.

Every child is special in its own way, and kids must not be forced, pressured they must be encouraged and supported and parents must talk good about them, high about them and not criticize and condemn them. If any child is not focusing on studies and spends time on media games etc then they must be monitored and parents must spend time with children, these days parents are busy watching TV or going out, hardly spend time with children

Each child comes to this world with a gift and help them nurture it and encourage them with extra curricular activities like -sports, music, etc..

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Abdullah, Kundapura
Tue, Mar 12 2019
This tragedy made me cry. I am sorry for the family. The girl should not have taken this step. Its not necessary that you will all the exams. You should accept the present and work for future. My heart beats for the parents who lost their daughter. We should stop such suicides. this is not a solution. We should accept the life which comes in our way in whichever condition it may be. It is not that every one is bright. Life is a valuable gift from God and we should not reject it. This girl should have thought of her parents and family members. I don't know what might be their condition. I pray God to bless them with enough strength to bear sudden departure of their kin. My advise to all parents is not to force your kids to bring highest marks and good result. Let them study on their own way.

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Shankar, Mangaluru
Tue, Mar 12 2019
None else than the parents are the culprits. More than once she mentioned her regret for not studying well. She was definitely being forced to fetch high marks.
RIP child.

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tressy peris, andheri mumbai
Tue, Mar 12 2019
"How much Percentage U got?"
this question is make the child to desperate.. henceforth please don't ask this question to your neighbours, friends, n relatives children and thier parents .

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MohammedMangaluru, Mangaluru
Tue, Mar 12 2019
parents make big mistake which made jasmitha to take this step.. Always know one thing parents should never pressurize your child to study and pass exams.. Give as much as freedom and child will study automatically seeing other students.. Nowadays parents do competition with another neighbor saying my child achieved this much and your child this much only.. Never commit this mistake and allow full freedom to let go by themselves to achieve any goal in their life...

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Evans C. Sumitra, Udupi/ New York, USA.
Tue, Mar 12 2019
I feel sorry for this young girl. Suicide was not a solution for her problem. In fact she has brought sadness to her parents and all her loved ones. May her soul RIP and condolences to all.

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GSM, Manga Gala Uru
Tue, Mar 12 2019
The criminalized criticism of failure in exams is the cause of Suicide. Many parents unwittingly criminalize the exam failure with their words. I have faced it. I also thought of suicide all my youth. But now I am shamelessly not afraid of failures.

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Tilak, London
Tue, Mar 12 2019
The letter made me a lot upset. RIP Jasmitha.

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gm, Mlur
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Very Sad, At least she could discuss this issue with her brother or sister before taking any decision. Education is required but Exams and marks are not everything, parents should understand.

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Anil, Dubai
Tue, Mar 12 2019
We need counselor for students as well their parents ... should be counsel together ....

*May her soul Rest in peace ...

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Vinod, Mangalore
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Its a real sad news.
But we cannot blame teachers and parents always.
14yrs is big enough age for maturity in thought.
Today kids are very different. They have mind of their own.

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Ronald, Bantwal
Tue, Mar 12 2019
The death note makes us to cry while reading - RIP
May God rest her peace.

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Prashanth Poojary, karkala
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Heart melting news and death note,
My eyes are filled with tears.
Parents should know their limit while putting pressure on their kids.
RIP dear angel.

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R.Bhandarkar, Mangaluru
Tue, Mar 12 2019
OMG.
Please ..all of you...
Life in itself is a never ending learning process.
Everyday you learn something.
"When learning ends Life ends"
Feel so bad when reading the contents of the little girls letter.
Somebody was 'Forcing' the little one too much to read....
God take care.

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Naveen D'souza, Mangalore
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Parents expectation is lot these days. Any How RIP Amen.

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Ali, Mlore
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Its really heartbreaking..the message she has left is very emotional

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RUDOLPH, MANGALORE
Tue, Mar 12 2019
VERY SAD. PARENTS PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN. ALWAYS INTERACT WITH THEM

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CHARLES SALDANHA, MALAD-MALWANI
Tue, Mar 12 2019
I am deeply saddened by the news.How can a girl end her life quoting poor performance in examination ?. Specially School teachers know children very well in respect of academic performance.They should study their mind and counsel them. Exam will come and go but precious life lost will not come back.
Who knows this girl would have grown up and would have become something special.At least school teachers could have done something.

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Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai
Tue, Mar 12 2019
I have run out of Words ...

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Chetan, Mangalore
Tue, Mar 12 2019
What is the world coming to?

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Sanjay, Hebri
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Depression is a dangerous condition. RIP.

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John Tauro, M'lore/ Kwt
Tue, Mar 12 2019
Very sad and shocking. Please help children overcome examination phobia. Let them know and understand examination is neither the beginning nor the end of life and that successes and failures are parts of life.

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