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Kundapur: Dowry harassment - girl commits suicide, family allege murder

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  • Rohan, Mangalore

    Sun, Feb 17 2013

    Dowry :
    contribution to the indian society by our so called "Indian culture" i.e the same culture which is heavily protected by self appointed protectors like BD,RS etc

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  • jaya, doha-udupi

    Sat, Feb 16 2013

    This is foolish Indian culture..nobody will change it..i dont want tell all the persons are same ..there is so many ...so many understanding and good family is there even so many good guys are there.. they never take dowry and also they take care of thier wife with well way..i talking about only indian revage.. nobody need to feel of my words... DOWRY this word is same like lancha ...somebody will PLAY UP AND UNDER the table. when dowry devil enterd in human body.. never go out... it will demand and demand until death of girl...I want ask you onething Mr. Prakash I hope you are educated, you already knows this person and his family have lalchi for money and gold ... then why not stop this marriage ... why you not make correct enquiry about that family..i can understand your father and mother mind.. they will hurry to make marriage to thier daughters not only yours parents .. most of the parents do this.. today poor girl left her life...Prakash sure god will give him punishment... kill him..you registered the case against him ,,. wht police will do nothing .. just they arrest him and after sometime he will comeout with the help of other devils... now i want talk about BD whre is that strong(Hanuman) dala.. this BD have a contract to work manglore only ? or all of the Kernataka state? please now you have chance to do good work take right action in this regards..give a justice to this poor family.....

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  • RSRB, Kundapura / KSA

    Sat, Feb 16 2013

    Dear Satya, Mangalore,
    400 years back my forefathers were Hindus in Goa...
    Since birth, I am Christian.....
    At present, I am in KSA eating the salt of Islam....
    All these religions are flowing in my blood...
    I have gone through Bible, Gita & Quran (also the holy books of many other religion) All of them spread love……
    Before talking on other religion, please go through their holy books. This is my advice to BD/SRS/HJV as well as other similar mindset people

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  • Lenin, Uppoor

    Sat, Feb 16 2013

    Very sad and shocking news. I know this girl and she was indeed a brave girl. May her soul rest in peace and God bless her small baby.

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  • Anita Prabhu, Vancouver, BC

    Sat, Feb 16 2013

    RSRB, Kundapura / KSA Friday,
    Who knows even Britishers were following Indian culture when they were in power in India. Just like westerns wearing saree, when they viist India. But how come no where in the West Dowry is practised!

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  • GERALD, MODANKAP

    Sat, Feb 16 2013

    OBIVIOUSLY THE DOWRY IS A INDIAN CULTURE AND HARRASSEMENT FOR THE DOWRY PART OF THE CULTURE !!

    WHAT YOU SAY BD/RSS/SENE/HJV/DV/SS/DFI/DYFI/MFD

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  • THERESA LOBO, Mukamar-Sharjah

    Sat, Feb 16 2013

    Very sad incident. For girls no safety at all. Either Rape/Murder/or after marriage dowry harrasment. Very Sad. May her soul Rest in peace.

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  • Aadil Khan, Kasaragod, Saudi Arabia

    Sat, Feb 16 2013

    I read all comments and happy to see everybody is against paying dowry. I wish the preaching is put into practice.

    To be frank, if you are adamant not to pay dowry, your sisters or daughters would face hard time to find a match compatible to her academic level, social status, financial viability and personality. The result is that she would either remain spinster for a long period and probably end up marrying an older guy. Therefore, a strict law should be enacted that dowry seekers are instantly punished. This can be achieved by joint efforts and all should work with the only mission to fight against paying any valuables to boy's people in marriage.

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  • Valerian Dsouza, Udupi/Mumbai

    Sat, Feb 16 2013

    Dear Jossey Saldanha, Mangalore/Mapusa/Mumbai
    Very true Jossey! You have an an excellent analytical and focused mind, therefore are a sharp shooter. You never miss the target.

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mangalore/Mapusa/Mumbai

    Sat, Feb 16 2013

    @RSRB, Kundapura / KSA. Agreed “Dowry” is not Indian culture so too is “Valentine’s Day”.
    Do you now have the guts to tell your RSS, BD, VHP, RS and HJV guys to root out “Dowry harassment and deaths” from Karnataka rather than running after every cow carted in a temo……………

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  • Joel, Mangalore/ Sydney

    Sat, Feb 16 2013

    RSRB, Kundapura / KSA.. Bro Wikipedia is not true information anybody can put in info into wikipedia or create a profile.. And dowry was exixting from the time of kings when their daughter was married they had to give a few amount of Gold and a few palaces away

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  • satya, mangalore

    Sat, Feb 16 2013

    RSRB, Kundapura / KSA Friday, February 15, 2013
    i like ur comments........if ur an Hindu plz tell this to all BD's/HV/SRS's & VHP's to fight against this....coz they fight against all other things which is introduced by Britishers...n britishers introduced postal system & railway but majority of the people travel by this means & they also travel by flight.Can u pls ask them to stop all the European cultur!!!!!!!


    Dowry was not a part of the Indian marriage before European influence crept into the society. The earliest example of Europeans practicing the dowry in India, the case of Mumbai, which was presented as part of the dowry when Princess Catherine de Braganza of Portugal was married to King Charles II in 1661.

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  • manoj, vamanjoor

    Sat, Feb 16 2013

    the man who is not capable to fulfill his own and his familys basic needs should not get marry in the first place. expecting money and torturing a women is a act of a coward and a impotent person. Jyothi s parents should have registered a complaint against her husband long back

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  • jessy, uae,

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Dear Brotheren,
    If at all there is a dowry it should be from the man to the brides parents.
    Reasons 1. since its the parents of the girl who is taking care f her since childhood and then giving in marriage.
    2. They spend so much so much for her education and then once she starts earning its the man who is going to use her salary.
    I really admire the Arabic Muslims culture where the brides clothes and perfumes cost also has been paid by the groom. He gives her everything plus a very good respect.Even they marry two or more times they still take care of their other wives. So we should have arabic culture or eradicate this virus from the soceity. Those who take dowry according to me they are beggers.THE WORST BEGGARS, THE BLACK DOT IN THE SOCEITY. hang that man with the money.

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  • RSRB, Kundapura / KSA

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    I am an Indian, hence proudly can tell Dowry is not Indian culture. I have copy pasted the following from wikipedia

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dowry

    Dowry was not a part of the Indian marriage before European influence crept into the society. The earliest example of Europeans practicing the dowry in India, the case of Mumbai, which was presented as part of the dowry when Princess Catherine de Braganza of Portugal was married to King Charles II in 1661.

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  • Don, Mangalore

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    At the outset I would like to clearly state that my comments are not aimed at any community, culture, traditions or religion, unlike some of your readership that make inappropriate comments when they have an upper hand based on that report.

    So here’s the scenario the female child leaves her father’s home and marries this man and starts to live with her husband in her new home. The rationale behind the “dowry” was the girl’s father who had X amount of wealth, now gives a portion of his money to the young couple in cash or in kind (i.e. Gold, Land or Cattle) to begin their new lives and to start a family and as we all know the son gets part of his father’s wealth upon his sad demise. This proposition seemed fair to both the male and female child, but today greed has taken over and a price tag is being put upon every female child and though the parents of girl can’t afford they are being forced to pay.

    The solution: If dowry is asked prior to the wedding, call off the ceremony immediately. If it happens after the wedding divorce should be made easy and society should not look down upon divorcees. The men of the community would be willing to marry them and the hard part accepting her children from her previous marriage. If the girl’s father willingly gifts money to his daughter and son-in-law then it should be in joint names in a bank account and to be used only when agreed jointly to buy a house or a car or whatever. Any male found harassing his wife for dowry should then find it next to impossible to then find another wife.

    To do all of the above the temple priests and the government should set the rules for marriage and enforce them. Society must cooperate and education coupled with change of attitude in the masses would result in helping our daughters, sisters and mothers or else sadly we will continue to see these reports every now and then.

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  • KGShenoy, Mangaloe/Dubai

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    When a boy decides to get married to settle down in life, he should not expect anything from girl or her family in cash or in kind if he is responsible ,honest person .He should have enough common sense that to live peacefully rest of their life,his life partner should have good feelings and respect for him.

    Similarly the girls should reject any proposals associated with conditions of dowry,gold, car, house etc.How she can trust a person who demands dowry to marry her ?Also no girl will be happy to live with a person who pushed her people in to debts.



    Without taking any dowry,gold etc many married men are deprived of peaceful life,then imagine the fate of those if they had taken dowry.
    I feel very sorry for Jyothi.RIP.

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  • jimmy noronha, Bellore, Lucknow

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Now that I see that the overwhelming respondents here are against dowry system (Indian Culture) , but do they have a solution for eradicating dowry? Suppose the parents have three daughters and a son, will it ever possible for the parents to get their daughters married without paying at least a nominal dowry and for three daughters the expenses for marriage amounts to quite a large sum. Under such circumstances, if they do not pay dowry (kick the dowry seeker) the parents are likely to be left with not finding a suitable match for their daughter or get them married at a considerable amount of sum which probably comes from borrowing. In such an event, will it not be proper for the parents to ask a reasonable dowry for the son so that to some extent they could pay off the debt incurred in getting their daughters married? They didn’t give dowry of their own volition, neither are they asking for it except out of compulsion.

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  • Cynthia, Moodbidri

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Some narrow minded people dont like western culutre the reason is western culture will eradicate dowry system. then how they can demand more and more car, banglow fm girls side.

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  • Anita Prabhu, Vancouver, BC

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Jeevan, Mangalore was bosting in just other news, by saying India has lowest divorce rate. Divorce happening in those countries where girls are educated, can stand on their own leg and equally powerful like man, otherwise the only option left to wives to kill themself

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  • Bhandara, India

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Speaks volume of our sacred Indian Culture - Torture the young bride and force her into suicide and all for Money, Laxmi. On the other side, women is a toy for use whether 6 month old baby or 80 year old aggi - rape is the way to go - Again a Indian Culture. However, per our famous trio - Rak, Jee & Poo this is all due to Western Culture!

    I feel sorry for our Indian women folk. May the soul of this young woman rest in peace

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  • Joel, Mangalore / Johannesburg

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Guys Calm Down!!! It's our Great Indian Culture...

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  • Lancelot N Tauro, manglore - Doha Qatar

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Dowry entered as Devil in beautiful marital life.
    Better ban this dowry to get a beautiful Goury.

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  • Valerian DSouza, Udupi/Mumbai

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Looking at these dowry harassment related suicides, I feel, western liberal divorce culture is far better than our conservative culture!
    There can be a way out provided society accepts it.
    Some people pretend to be sober till marriage and thereafter show true colour! It can be from either side, boys or girls!
    If genuine compromises doesn't work, quick legal separation is a only way out!
    Our society should adopt such practices!
    Problems are there in traditional and modern ways as well.
    At least humans find a way out to live till the will of God!

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  • Charles D'Mello, Pangala

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    I have only daughter and if anyone asks for dowry...he or his family is sure to get a kick. This is really a sad incident. Parents do not push your daughters into marriage to those who demand money please.

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  • Sahitya, Mangalore

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    There is no full stop for this kind of cases in India. Very sad to see such news :-(

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  • RAJESH, MULKI

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    RSRB
    WHATEVER THE CASE, THIS KIND OF END DO NOT JUSTIFY THE MEANS..

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  • jesse, kuwait mangalore

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    I hope jyothi must have told b4 with her parents about the problems she was facing. But they didnt care. If some one loves their daughter or sister they will not allow her to go back instead stay back in their house. Doesnt matter if somebody says something.

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  • Aadil Khan, Kasaragod, Saudi Arabia

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Taking or offering dowry is an offence. Today's unmarried youth should stay united for entering the wedlock unconditionally.

    But the problem is the race for seeking the best of the best groom for one's daughter, and thus one ends up offering many things including flat, car, clinic, cash etc. along with the girl in addition to the gold. Today's youth should stand solidly to end this menace and thus it will pave way for many poor girls' marriages.

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  • Amin Bhoja, Patte / Riyadh

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Marriages are made in heaven and there is a connection of divive energy in between the two.Dowry is a worst part of our culture we follow still today and it is a kind of ghost follows everywhere too.Pity for the girl who commits sucide because of dowry, a unknown mistake she never commited and she becomes a easy victim of it.Marriage is a bond i.e love trust and loyality and we should not prove otherwise!.'May her soul rest in peace'

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  • S.M. Nawaz Kukkikatte, udupi

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    RIP to jyothi,

    Dear youths try to do "STOP" awareness of Dowry Systems, We bon from "Woman" stomach just respect her.

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  • RSRB, Kundapura / KSA

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    It is very difficult to judge who is right. I have seen both cases, where wife harasses husband demanding new house, ornaments, to abandon husband's parents etc... Similarly, husband harasses wife for dowry, beating wife for no reason, etc....
    Indian laws are pro-woman. If she goes to court, it is almost sure that husband is the looser. After coming out from court, wife realizes she is also the looser.

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  • Joel, Mangalore/ Sydney

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Indian Culture.. any say anyone...

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  • Reshmi Salian, Mangalore

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    If VHP, BD acts on this issue, you rogue say they are jobless, police has to probe. You have problem either way.. Correct your attitude..- Dinesh Poojary..

    Dinesh, BD and any other Dal's are not bothered about these evil acts. They are very much interested in attacking places of worship of other religions, attack unarmed women, burn valentine cards and create communal disharmony in the society. Their main aim is to spoil the name of hindus. May Jyoti's soul rest in peace and I just hope and pray that culprits will be caught and punished. There should be no mercy to these killers.

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  • Pramod suvarna, derebail / mangalore

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    dowry is western culture.RIP Jyothi

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  • Joslynn Rooswelt, Mangalore

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Where is BD now....? Come & give justice here... Oh u guys r busy in burning greetings..... lol

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mangalore/Mapusa/Mumbai

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    @Dinesh,Kundapura/Bengaluru. VHP, BD and RS are jobless rogues who will be doing a big favor to our women if they can stop dowry deaths and harassment instead of running after cows in tempos………..

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  • ISMAIL.K.PERINJE, PERINJE-YANBU/KSA

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    May soul rest peace...What happened to our literate district?No humanity?Is suicide a solution to the problem?Disgusting and very sad state of affairs.Husband has to convince the authority if not abated suicide/murder of his wife.

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  • SAHIL, DUBAI

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Demand on Dowry
    Really very Sorry
    Means the way of Worry No Glory
    Don’t entertain anybody for demand the dowry a lot difference between to give something on own wish and demand
    May her Soul Rest in peace

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  • Roshan Braganza, Mumbai

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Again the brutal bashing of husband and in laws starts on this forum. Its easy to accuse someone of murder that amounts false case , so girls mother should be punished too. Its become fashion now a days to lodge ipc's against husband family upon just a verbal statement rather than evidence. If someone committs suiccide due to some serious problems , its solely their decission , how can one blame extended family for that. Abettment of suiccide can be applied only in cases of death notes and thats debatle too ( even death notes can be false too. )........../ a girls family can easily trap in laws , as dowry can be just wedding expenditure or gold etc. How to differenciate dowry and regular marriage expenses.... Very difficult. MAY HER SOUL REST IN PEACE

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  • BD,

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Mr. Poojary,

    Mr. Jossy is speaking about OUR culture, he did not say YOUR culture.
    WE means INDIANS ....

    pls CORRECT YOUR ATTITUDE..

    Dear Dinesh, are u Indian OR ...??

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  • Dinesh Poojary, Kundapura/Bengaluru

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    Jossey Saldanha, Mangalore/Mapusa/Mumbai

    If VHP, BD acts on this issue, you rogue say they are jobless, police has to probe. You have problem either way.. Correct your attitude..

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mangalore/Mapusa/Mumbai

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    VHP, BD, RS. Is dowry harassment and murder our culture?

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'Lore

    Fri, Feb 15 2013

    In this age if you yield to 'demands of dowry' then you too are equally at fault! You should have known what to expect when the groom to be -put forth demands 3 days prior to marriage!Have you sold your daughter/sister or married her off? Think and ponder....The boy's side in any case will pay for their sins! You are no 'hermit' either! Now make preparations to collect'back' what
    you had given to strike a deal.....

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