Dec 28, 2010
The very first time when I was left in Anganwadi by my mother I was not really worried or nervous as I was sure I would get back home when the school bell rang at 1 pm. As years rolled by, it was time for me to stay away from home and concentrate on building my career.
The initial days of being away from home brought in me an uneasy feeling making me feel somewhat lonely. It could be because of the pressure of adjusting to the new environment or could be separation anxiety or may be the attachment with the native place.
Whatever it was, homesickness is something that most people who have to relocate experience, but sooner or later we have all found out or we have to find out our individual answers as to how to deal with homesickness or the feeing of uneasiness.
An entirely different environment will take time to welcome when we first step into a new college hostel or workplace.
When one first steps into a new college, hostel or workplace in a far-off region adjusting to it is not so easy. Each one will take one's own time to settle down in a new environment.
Some miss their plate when they sit down to eat, some miss their pillow when they go to bed, some miss their close friends, as if they miss every moment of life, giving an odd feeling that they are living someone else's life. Sounds funny… But I am sure there are lots of people who have experienced this or still do. Unable to adjust to the new place some might simply opt to return to their native.
Homesickness, it is a common feeling that veils a person when he is away from the comfort zone of his home or native place. Homesickness may also be yearning for a past period. It is a feeling of separation from home, home related objects, can be people (as in family) or one's personal stuff.
The solution lies within the individual who undergoes the feeling. The answer is initiative. The answer is strong will. The answer is patience. If you are a person suffering from homesickness you will have to find the root cause of uneasiness. You need to first know why you are not comfortable. Whether you are missing your family, friends, your home, the food, the lifestyle, or is it that you are not able to adjust to the new surroundings. So, the first thing to do is, to find out and read the homesickness symptoms. Once you know the cause, dealing with it would become easier.
If it is your family that you are missing, the solution is simple. Talk. Talk to your parents and your siblings on a daily basis. Exchange the minutest detail of how you spent your day. This would make life a little easier as your bonding with them would not break, even if it is dependent on a few telephone wires.
Apply the same in case of friends; nothing's better than a get-together once in a while. Those few hours of catching up would rejuvenate you to such an extent that you would cherish the moments for months or years to come.
Look around, you have plenty of options to divert your mind. Try and accept your present situation. You are here and here for good, so jump into your new life and accept the challenge. Get out of your shell, talk to people, make friends and spend as much time with people as possible. Try and explore the city. Challenge yourself and your performance and try and do better every time. This would not only boost your confidence, but would keep you preoccupied. Your aim would keep you going and one fine day, without you realizing it, the emptiness would vanish into thin air.
And remember, the entire world is your home, no matter where you are.
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