August 18, 2012

When you sit at the shores of those never ending mighty oceans of life with depression masked on your face, recalling those moments when your eyes first met that stranger, looking at whom the two little imaginary eyes within your heart unknowingly blinked, whose hand you held for the very first time to walk a mile and dreamt of a happiest future; whose happiness, joy, sorrows, pain, pleasure, and all other human emotions affected yours and between all these episodes of smooth moving life, one fine day you experience an uninvited betrayal, a most devastating experience ever. Your heart abruptly prompts you that you were never wrong, you never cheated on your partner and had a disastrous breakup. It was this very shore wherein you sat together and tried to figure out which was the last wave heading towards you among the series of waves coming your way. and today you realise that the space beside you is empty and all that you want to do now is search for someone who would now cover up the void regardless of what the person might be.

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Leaving the artistic explanation aside, all I want to emphasize is the fact that today youngsters are just eager to have someone who  could pose as their strong emotional support in life. They are not self-dependent when it comes to their handling their own emotions but are unknowingly dependent on another. That's the reason why most of the times after a breakup we usually find girls or guys in quest of someone who they could rely upon for their emotions or who could fill the space of their ex.

Loneliness and a broken heart haunts them after their breakups. Their mental status at this point is in such a pathetic trance that they are unaware of the choice they are making, they are not patient enough to see through the person. "Good or bad" is not the issue."He/She is the one who is filling the empty space in my life" is the only thing that matters to them and in turn it becomes the greatest happiness at that moment.

This is the reason why we find most of the youngsters going about with a new girlfriend or a boyfriend within a few months of their breakup. They do not give themselves time to pause for a moment and analyse "Is this the right choice I am making?","What exactly do I want from the relationship" or, "Am I now mentally stable to move on with a new relationship?" or "Is he/she is a promising partner for me?" There is absolutely no room for such questions in the mind of a broken heart as it is then emotionally weak. This pattern repeats non-stop for every partner coming into one's life, all ending up with more and more hampering of feelings, emotionally murdering the very concept of "LOVE".

A crane will never lift a mighty weight if it is made out of thermocol. All I mean is, your heart will never able to stabilise and start with new realtionships in life, until and unless it is strong as iron. And in order to make it strong, you need to give yourself enough time after a breakup, so that the same patterns of betrayal, breakups, devastation and depression do not occur again.

"Dont be hasty!!" is the most common piece of advice you see on the traffic signs on roads. The same applies to one's life as well. You never know when you may land up meeting with unexpected accidents in life's journey, leaving behind incurable wounds in your heart.