October 11, 2009

In our lives, sometimes we are hesitant and shy of expressing our love. The fear of embarrassing the other person or ourselves makes us dilly-dally in saying the magical words ‘I Love You’. Therefore, we try to communicate this in another manner.

We normally use words such as ‘take care’, ‘don’t drive too fast’, ‘I just don’t want you to get hurt’, or ‘I care about what happens to you’; we really know how to amuse ourselves with words. Sometimes, we really behave in a very outlandish way—the only thing we want to say and the one thing that we should say is the one thing we actually don’t say!

And many a times, the meaning never gets communicated at all and the other person is left feeling unloved and unwanted. Has this ever happened to you? So, what is the solution? We have to ‘listen for love’! Does that sound good?

We must listen for love in the words that people say to us; sometimes unequivocal words are indispensable, but more often the approach of saying things is even more important.   A spontaneous hug says ‘I love you’, any expression of a person’s concern for another says “I love you”. Haven’t many of us gone through this phase and always wondered what’s happening; why someone is trying to get so close?

We have many ways to say I love you; sometimes with little notes, with smiles, and sometimes with tears; sometimes we show our love by just keeping quiet and not saying a word; at other times by speaking out, even harshly!

We tend to show our love by impetuosity. The actual problem with giving an ear to love is that we don’t always understand the language of love which the other person is using— a girl may use tears to say what she wants to say, and her lover may not understand her because he expects her to talk to in his language.

So, we have to actually listen for love; the quandary with our so called beautiful world is that people seldom listen to each other—they hear the words, but they don’t listen to the actions that convey the words or see the expression on the face. They do not see the love that is there just beneath the shell.

By listening for love we will be able to find that the world around us is a very lovely place. Love is a happy thing, so never ever regret having fallen for someone who does not love you.

Love does not necessarily mean having to be together; love also means sacrifice! If you love the person truly, then I am sure that you will also love all the things and the people that the other person loves. Sometimes, in love we laugh; love makes us groove to silent music, it makes us sad and it makes us seek the reason why certain things are happening when they are not supposed to.

It makes us give and take and above all else, it makes us live! How is that? It is the presence or absence of people that makes the difference because a person need not be lonely even if he/she is alone.

Sometimes, it is also good to be alone but that does make us lonely. It is not a matter of being present with someone but rather a matter of being present ‘to’ someone; isn’t that true?

So guys and gals, if you love someone, express your feelings and remember to always say what you mean and to stop beating around the bush. Be direct and clear in whatever you want to say; never be afraid to express yourself.

Always be yourself and for that you have to be who you really are—the real YOU. Seize the day and have no regrets!