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Mother's Love

May 26, 2017

Being the only child I was the apple of my parents' eyes. Everything they did revolve around me and my happiness. Being a daughter, as the rule goes, I was always a daddy’s girl. Though I loved both of them equally yet somewhere dad always had a special place. Like in all the houses dad was the softer one and mom the tougher one. Mom's scolding would not affect me so much but one stare from dad was enough to make me cry. I lived a beautiful childhood with lot of care and support from my parents.

If this was one side of the story the other part was the relationship which my parents shared. They were and still are the couple I look up to as my role model. Dad always helped Mom even before her asking since she also works. He made a point to make all things easy for her so that she needn’t had to struggle for anything. My mom on the other hand till date manages the work and house perfectly never complaining.

Our relatives and friends always envied my Mom and often called her fragile because she did not know how to manage the worldly affairs, her world sort of revolved around her work and family. They used to always talk about her dependency on dad and what she would do without him. Though I never felt she was weak but very often I wondered how she would manage if any situation would occur and my dad wouldn’t be around to help her.

After almost two-and-a-half years of my marriage I conceived and this was a great joy to my parents, they had cherished this dream from long and were all happy and waiting for the arrival of their little grandchild. All went on smoothly; my mom had begun her preparations collecting little clothes for baby, arranging for a caretaker etc.

When everything looked smooth and bright that’s when on a fateful morning I began experiencing severe stomach pain and back ache. I was in unbearable pain and trauma and I was rushed to the hospital and made to lie there still. Everything was normal - I had completed 3 months 20 days, I had built dreams and had painted my life hoping for the arrival of the little one.

I remember lying in the bed and screaming out of pain and I could see just one face all the time next to me holding my hands and that was my mother. She stood there as I cried and screamed in pain and despair, she stood there when I began bleeding, she stood there when the doctors failed to detect baby’s heart beat and she stood there when doctor told me my baby was dead and it had to be pulled out. She stood there strong without showing her grief. When I blamed myself and wondered why, she held me tight and told me that it was okay and its God’s plan and everything would be fine.

I knew it was not fine for her, I knew how much she wanted to hold my little one in her hands. Yet she did not let a tear drop from her eyes just to assure that I wouldn’t feel bad. I knew my husband and my dad standing outside were crying. They couldn’t come inside and look into my eyes, they had lost their strength and were sitting quiet. But my mom whom the entire world termed as weak and fragile stood with me continuously. I struggled for 5 hours to put my baby outside and she stood by her daughter those 5 hours supporting her. Even after I was discharged and bought home never did she cry, never did she blame the doctor nor the almighty, she just took care of me and again managed her work, my house and saw that I was safe and secure.

This incident was an eye opener for me, though I had lost my child the mother in me was crying but the daughter in me recognized the value of my mother. I realized her strength, patience and her immense ability. She was going through a storm yet she remained calm and handled me, my dad and my husband. I am sure she would have gone out and wept loudly but she saw to that every time she faced me she was calm and showed no remorse. My dad and my husband had gone blank not knowing what to do. But the so-called weak woman stood beside me like a pillar and handled everything smoothly.

That day I acknowledged the strength and grit of my mom, she was a lady of substance. I always loved her but from that day my respect for her had taken a new dimension. She is the kind of woman I want to be. She is not the lady who roams around with branded phones and speaks fluent English. She does not attend parties and she is not a member of ladies club. But I realized she was a lady with class and dignity. She was a perfect mother and her love for her child was priceless. Even today when the entire world asks me again when I plan for a kid she never ever forces me and asks me to recover completely, not just physically but also emotionally, exhibiting the selfless attitude of her love.

It is said God does everything for the good of His people, even though losing my kid was devastating it taught me so many things. It made me stronger, it made me understand the worth of people around me and above all the real essence of being a mother.

 

 

By Sonal Lobo, Bengaluru
Sonal Lobo, born and bought up in Bengaluru, is a post graduate in commerce from Christ University, Bengaluru. She has been writing from the age of 10. Her writings have been published in in a number of publications of repute. She has published two books 'Thoughts Sublime' and 'Whistling Words' both collection of poems and also contributed in various anthologies. Currently she is working as an HR counsellor in Bengaluru. You can reach her at sonal_chocolate@yahoo.co.in

Comment on this article

  • Sonal lobo, Mangalore

    Sun, Sep 3 2017

    Nice article. Your article upholds the love of mother.
    A mother who is fragile, quiet and reserved. Well appreciated.

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  • Ray, Bangalore

    Thu, Jun 8 2017

    Very beautifully expressed. Though the language is used is simple it could definitely make a difference in the hearts of those reading. Wonderful articulation. Keep writing.

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  • Lavina Lobo, Mangalore/Sharah

    Wed, Jun 7 2017

    Nice and Inspiring article dear Sonal. True inspiration. Keep writing more articles like this.

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  • Manjunatha, Anekal

    Mon, Jun 5 2017

    Beautiful with your inspiration ...Nice article Sonal Lobo ,continue writing with the new articles ....
    god bless u...........long time........................

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  • SYLVIA D SOUZA, mangalore

    Fri, Jun 2 2017

    very touching article. felt like crying. You are a great daughter of your mom so fairly u understood mothers feeling. All parents treat their children like your parents but.... only some children understand their parents. God bless u my dear child. hope this article touch every child's .

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  • paul dsouza, balakunje

    Fri, Jun 2 2017

    VERY REASONABLE ARTICLE. TOUCHED MY HEART. BOTH PARRENTAL ROLE EQUALLY EXPRESSED.... BEAUTIFULLY COMPOSED.... BEATIFULLY ADITED.
    VERY NICE. KEEP UP YOUR SPIRIT!

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  • Martha, Bangalore

    Wed, May 31 2017

    I usually don't cry reading but this article bought tears in my eyes. Wonderful writing, keep it up. Will wait for your next article.

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  • Anita Britto, Mangaore/ Auckland

    Wed, May 31 2017

    Beautifully written ! Looking forward to reading more from you. God bless

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  • Jennifer Vaz, Mysore

    Tue, May 30 2017

    Brought tears to my eyes, I literally cried reading this.!! God bless you and your strong Mother.

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  • Sushma, Puttur/USA

    Tue, May 30 2017

    Beautifully written Sonal. A mother’s love is sacrificial. A mother stretches herself literally and metaphorically, from the time of conception until the twilight of her own life.

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  • Priyadarshini Prakash, Mangaluru

    Mon, May 29 2017

    Nice article dear. Brought tears to my eyes. God bless you. Keep writing

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  • Rita, Germany

    Mon, May 29 2017

    Dear Sonal,many people all over the world have explained the love from the mother written poets about it.But what you explained here is quite a different catagory,which never appeared anywhere.And what she showed you in your sad situation ,to be strong ,a pillar to you was really amazing.Hardly any woman was inthat situation as a mother could do it.wonderful mother you have.Keep it in your memory in your life time and cherish it when in future any problem arise.Nice article.Thank you for sharing it.I too had a wonderful mother ,whoom I will never forget in life.Imiss her still.wish you all the best in future.

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  • Shivprakash Rai, Moodbidri

    Sun, May 28 2017

    Nice Article. God bless you.

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  • Apoorva Manjunath, Bangalore

    Sat, May 27 2017

    The way you express your life experiences in your articles can melt anyone's heart!

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  • Usha Akhilesh, Bengaluru

    Sat, May 27 2017

    Sonal you have proved how loving mother you will be one day very soon , every single word is so much closer to heart , God bless you and your family.

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  • Santhosh, Bangalore

    Sat, May 27 2017

    Beautifully Expressed. I admire the writer in you, keep writing.

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  • Smitha, Bangalore

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Beautifully written Sonal. Tears rolled down my eyes reading this!!.. Mother's love is priceless and you have expressed it all so well.

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  • Deepa, Bangalore

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Wow sonal !Wat articulation.. I could feel the depth of emotions as i read through the article. That's the strength of your penning skill. I am sure many more such powerful write ups are on the way.

    All the very best dear.

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  • Mahima, Thrissur, India

    Fri, May 26 2017

    We all realise one's true worth when we have gone through the same kind of hardships. That's when we go "Ah, they have worked really hard!"
    I have always been suprised by a mother's strength in taking care of her kids and family. The length she goes to ensure that everyone is safe and happy is absolutely beautiful. I am just an 18year old girl who has a lot to learn. But I will work towards giving my parents happy time in the future. My parents have always been my favorite role model.
    Thankyou for writing this so beautifully. I will look forward to you writings. God bless you and your family♡

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  • Ramya Victor, Bangalore

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Loved it Sonal. Mother's are like God in disguise to gaurd, protect and love us unconditionally... Reading your article gave me a glimpse of my sister's miscarriage during her seventh month pregnancy... I understand the pain and strength my sis and mom had during that phase and wish you guys the same strength. God has plans and they are the most wonderful ones. B positive love. God bless

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  • Vidhya Holla, Bengaluru

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Very beautifully written, Sonu. Brought tears to my eyes. Stay blessed! 😚

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  • Prakruthi, Bangalore

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Awesome sonal,very heart touching article.very proud to be a women n a mother.

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  • Ashwini R, Bangalore

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Hey Sonal,
    I have always felt your parents are the best, specially your father i have always yearned for such love. And today after reading through this article, goosebumps broke out all over my body and my stomach started to flutter thinking of the strength and endurance of your mother .I am glad to be associated with wonderful souls like you all. Sonal i am proud of you and astound by your articulation to great detail. I am certain you will reach massive heights through your penning skills. Continue writing and never stop!!!!


    This is truly above and beyond

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  • Ivan Lydwin Lobo, Barebail/Canada

    Fri, May 26 2017

    "A mother is she who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take"....words of Swedish Cardinal Mermillod, so aptly proves what you have so beautifully narrated in your life's true experience. Sonal, you are a brilliant lady always believe in writing inspirational article but for the first time, I have seen an article about yourself and the role your Mom played during your miscarriage. In your own words, the experience has made you even stronger because, now you know what motherhood is. We are very proud of you Sonal. May you be blessed always.

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  • Anitha Gomes, Mangalore / Bengaluru

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Nice Article , Sonal. I love reading all the articles /poems written by you ... All the best

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  • Adrina, Mangalore

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Beautiful article Sonal.. keep writing .. God bless !!

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  • John B. Miranda, Pachinadka, Bantwal, Dubai

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Very nice article, keep writing, all the best.

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  • Clare, Dubai

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Words cannot express a mother's love. Most of us don't see that love until its too late. We all need to learn to appreciate what we have before we lose it and realise that we lost something so beautiful that we'll never find anywhere else in life.

    I really loved how you worded everything and the small article really describes a mother's love.

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  • veena moras, dubai

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Nice article & very well written sonal. I am with tears.
    Congratulations!!
    God bless you dear sonu!! Keep writing & wish you all the best.

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  • Pooja Nitin, Bangalore

    Fri, May 26 2017

    I admire you as a writer, than a Friend 😊👍 You fill in so many emotions in your write ups 😊

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  • Lucy Rodrigues, Moodubelle/Andheri

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Beautiful article. Thank you. God bless you.

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  • Priya Lobo, Mangalore

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Hey Sonal beautiful article got me all teared up the love of a mother is truly wonderful Good work keep going strong! 😘

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  • Asmath Afza, Bangalore

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Sonal congratulations on such a wonderful article...I had tears in my eyes while reading it. We girls always look upto dad as our hero. But I realised that my mom is the actual hero only after I became one.
    Those lines where you say that she doesn't have fancy phones and cannot speak fluent English, its there where as a kid I thought that my mom is not the one who can face the world alone. But I was wrong.... Any mother for that matter can fight the world for her family and CHILDREN....I am really sorry for your loss. But am sure you are going to be a very strong mother. All the best and keep posting such wonderful articles which bring people closer!!!!

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  • Neethu, Bangalore

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Awesome Sonal .Keep up this good work

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  • Nitin, Bangalore

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Bob every write up of yours comes with a good message to all those readers and also speaks about your volume of potential you have. yet again I always feel your write ups and u know I don't read books or novels, yet I somehow get that connect of reading your articles. Good job :)

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  • Akil Vijay Dsouza, Moodubelle/Bangalore

    Fri, May 26 2017

    Nice Article Sonal. Certainly there is no alternative for Mother's Love in this world. God Bless. Keep Writing

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